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Whether you’re just curious about kink, or you’re trying to live the BDSM lifestyle 24/7 — you’re in the right place.

Maybe you have no idea how to get started.
Need help improving and growing as a Dominant or submissive.
Feel isolated. You wish more people could relate to this lifestyle you’re wanting to live.

No matter where you are in your journey, I created Dom Sub Living to help you explore real BDSM.

What is Wax Play Kink? 5 Safe Playing Tips

TL;DR: Wax play is a sensual BDSM practice involving warm candle wax dripped on the skin for safe, controlled stimulation. This guide debunks myths, explains safety tips, and offers step-by-step instructions. With the right tools and consent, wax play can deepen intimacy, anticipation, and pleasure between partners exploring power exchange dynamics. BDSM has the power to […]

Exploring Worship Kink: A Deep Dive into Devotion and Submission

In the power exchange of BDSM, devotion plays a large part in the dynamic. You and your partner should be devoted to the roleplay, to start. Then, of course, there’s the honoring and devotion to the BDSM contract you and your partner devise. But things can go even deeper. For some kinksters, the worship kink acts as […]

What Is A Praise Kink & 20 Hot Praise Kink Phrases

BDSM is all about tapping into your most deeply seeded pleasure centers and giving them exactly what they want. But what they want might be different from your partner or other people. In truth, there are dozens and dozens of kinks out there in the universe. One of the fundamental kinks in BDSM play is praise kink. […]

5 Tips for an Ownership Kink in Practice

There’s a certain thrill to giving up your power to someone you trust, isn’t there? Or perhaps you’re more into the empowered side of a power dynamic? Either way, for those with an ownership kink, dominance in the bedroom can lead to immense, unheard-of pleasure. But like anything BDSM-adjacent, there are some ground rules and […]

Dirty Talk During Sex: What to Say and How to Say It

Let’s face it: everyone wants their bedroom just a little bit spicier. Of course, that level of spice (and really, the flavor itself) is never going to look the same between any two given couples. But do you know what is potentially spicier than all else? Communication. Letting your partner know you’re connected, you’re present, and you’re into […]

The Dynamics of BDSM Slave Relationships

For many couples giving themselves over to BDSM play in the bedroom, the dynamics of master and slave roles can be central. It can form the cornerstone of the relationship and inform every decision made together. Of course, different bedrooms conduct different rules when it comes to sexual slavery and BDSM. And what’s right for […]

Beducated Review – Plus Coupon Code!

As a Dom/sub couple, my partner and I are always looking for ways to explore our sexuality and improve our intimate relationship. One of the resources we’ve found incredibly helpful in this regard is Beducated. Keep reading for my complete Beducated review, and also get your coupon code for a subscription discount. My Honest Beducated […]

[Infographic] 2025 Reader Survey Results

A few weeks ago, I asked all of my subscribers if you would do me a favor and fill out my annual reader survey. The survey was filled with questions from “what’s your biggest BDSM challenge” to “what kinks are you interested in”, and each of your answers helped me better understand how you feel about and […]