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[Infographic] 2026 Reader Survey Results
A few weeks ago, I asked all of my subscribers if you would do me a favor and fill out my annual reader survey. The survey was filled with questions from “what’s your biggest BDSM challenge” to “what kinks are you interested in”, and each of your answers helped me better understand how you feel about and […]
10 Best BDSM + Kink Podcasts for Doms and Subs in 2026
Looking to improve your D/s dynamic or grow in your role as a Dominant or submissive in 2026? Listening to a podcast is one of the easiest (and most fun) ways to deepen your understanding of power exchange. But what are the best BDSM and kink podcasts for Doms and subs? We curated the top […]
How to Get Started With BDSM in 2026 (Ep. 120)
Curious about BDSM but don’t know where to start? Alesandra shares simple, safe steps for beginners—no dungeon required. Here’s how to begin…
2025 Broke Me… But It Also Built Me (Ep. 118)
2025 nearly broke me, but it also rebuilt my life, my kink dynamic, and my community. Here’s what really happened—the good, the bad, and the ugly…
Dirty Talk, Punishment, Trust Issues—Let’s Talk D/s (Ep. 116)
Navigating D/s while juggling work, family, and long distance? We answer your toughest questions about punishment, dirty talk, and staying connected as you…
Can a Submissive Still Be Feminist? (Ep. 114)
Can you be both a feminist and a submissive? Alesandra explores power, choice, and the truth about modern kink and empowerment as she unpacks…
Our Top 5 Kinky Black Friday Deals
I’m so excited for Kinky Black Friday! Here’s some awesome sales and events happening in the online BDSM world, where you can get some amazing deals right now with my exclusive discounts. **Some of the below links are affiliate links and I may earn a commission. Thank you! 🚨 #1: OUR BIGGEST BLACK FRIDAY DEAL: […]
10 Hidden Power Plays Only Experienced Doms Use (Ep. 112)
Unlock the 10 hidden power plays of true dominance—master trust, control, and obedience in your Dom/sub dynamic without ever raising your voice…
Spirituality and BDSM: What No One Talks About (Ep. 108)
BDSM can be deeply spiritual when practiced with intention and mindfulness. Discover how breathwork, rituals, and presence transform power exchange into…
Chastity and Locktober: Everything You Need to Know (Ep. 106)
Chastity is more than just denial—discover how Locktober unlocks intimacy, surrender, and fun in modern BDSM relationships as Alesandra explores…
Your First Dungeon Night or Munch? What to Expect (Ep. 104)
Curious about your first dungeon or Munch? Learn what to expect, what to wear, and how to find your kink community with confidence as Alesandra reveals…
Inside Our BDSM Contract – What We Really Agreed To (Ep. 102)
Think BDSM contracts are just kinky rules or 50 Shades fiction? Discover the real essentials for lasting D/s dynamics and how to create your own…
100 Episodes of Kink: What I Learned the Hard Way (Ep. 100)
After 100 episodes, Alesandra reveals the unexpected truths that make or break a BDSM lifestyle—and why learning and growth never stop in kink and…
DDLG 101: The Truth About Being a Babygirl (Ep. 99)
DDLG dynamics go beyond outfits and rules—they’re about care, structure, and healing intimacy. Discover the real meaning behind caregiver relationships and…
5 Dom/sub Punishment Ideas I Love (and Hate) (Ep. 98)
Not all Dom sub punishments are created equal! Discover the 5 punishments I love to hate and how they build real connection in your dynamic…
Every Fake Dom Does This. (Ep. 96)
Spot the red flags in your DS relationship! Discover the top 5 mistakes fake Doms make—and how to create a safe, trusting dynamic instead…
7 Hidden Habits That Keep D/s Relationships Strong (Ep. 95)
Most Dom sub relationships start hot, then fizzle. Discover the 7 hidden habits thriving D/s couples commit to for lasting connection and growth…
Most BDSM Teachers Get This Completely Wrong (Ep. 94)
Most BDSM education is outdated or wrong—and it’s messing up real dynamics! Here are 10 myths hurting kink relationships and how to fix them…
Not Sure You’re a “Real” Dom or Sub? Read This (Ep. 93)
Feel like a fake in BDSM? Even the most confident Doms and subs start with doubts. Discover how to overcome imposter syndrome and claim your place…
Guide to Incorporating Submissive Positions into Your Routine
TL;DR: This guide explores how to physically embody a submissive role in BDSM by using specific poses to enhance power exchange and deepen connection with a Dom. It includes practical advice, mindset reminders, and position breakdowns to support intentional, respectful, and exciting BDSM play. When you take on the submissive role in your relationship, you […]
How to Explore BDSM WITHOUT a Partner (Ep. 92)
Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again! Discover how to build confidence and skills solo before finding your ideal Dom or sub and…
Is Fifty Shades of Grey Really that Bad? (Ep. 91)
Is 50 Shades of Grey really that bad for the kink community, or did it help spark real conversations about BDSM and consent? Let’s break it down and…
A Guide to Dom/sub for Starters & BDSM for Beginners
Many people who are curious about kink want to know the quickest way to get started and learn BDSM. When you’re just a BDSM beginner, confusion is not uncommon. It can be really frustrating to try to figure out what a Dominant or submissive is all about. If you don’t get started the right way, […]
How to Train Your Sub (Ep. 90)
Training your sub isn’t about punishments—it’s about building trust, habits, and real connection in your dynamic. Discover practical tips and rituals as you…
A Look Inside Our Total Power Exchange Relationship (Ep. 89)
Curious what 24/7 total power exchange (TPE) really looks like? Alesandra shares the real-life rituals, challenges, and connection behind the scenes…
What People Get Wrong About Total Power Exchange (Ep. 88)
Total power exchange (TPE) can sound extreme, but is it really? Alesandra debunks myths and shares real-life tips for building consensual TPE dynamics…
BDSM Submissive Punishments: How to Punish a Sub Effectively
Most Dominant/submissive relationships in BDSM usually have varying types of submissive punishments. And if rules are broken, the next steps are more than clear. Correction (even over text) is needed from time to time when a sub breaks the rules. However, many Doms struggle with ideas for knowing how to punish a sub. This is […]
What is Wax Play Kink? 5 Safe Playing Tips
TL;DR: Wax play is a sensual BDSM practice involving warm candle wax dripped on the skin for safe, controlled stimulation. This guide debunks myths, explains safety tips, and offers step-by-step instructions. With the right tools and consent, wax play can deepen intimacy, anticipation, and pleasure between partners exploring power exchange dynamics. BDSM has the power to […]
10 Taboo Kinks: Which Are Normal vs. Truly Dangerous? (Ep. 87)
Your darkest fantasies are more normal than you think! Discover which taboo kinks are safe, which are risky, and how to explore them without shame…