Many people who are curious about BDSM want to know the quickest way to get started. When you’re just a beginner, it can be really frustrating to try and figure out what a Dominant or submissive is all about. If you don’t get started the right way, you’re going to waste a lot of time […]
Beginners
How to Create a BDSM Contract- FREE PDF
Before you begin any new Dom/sub relationship, it’s a good idea to have a BDSM contract. It spells out in detail what is expected of each person. It also keeps things safe and consensual. Even if you are married to the person and are starting to explore kink, a contract can make communication easier. It’s […]
How to go from Vanilla to BDSM and Kink
One of the questions I get asked the most is, “How do I go from vanilla to BDSM?” (The definition of vanilla is plain, normal, or boring.) Maybe the person read the book 50 Shades of Grey, or wants to incorporate kink into their relationship or sex life to bring more meaning to it. It […]
FREE BDSM QUIZ! Discover your kink personality type
One size fits all is not what BDSM and kink is about — Consider this quiz your shortcut to exploring your kinky potential. When you align with your natural strengths and innate sexuality, the Dom/sub lifestyle becomes a whole lot easier. Take this test and get instant access to your customized plan. You’ll find out what […]
BDSM Collars: The Only 2 Types You Need [Photos]
If you’re a Dominant or submissive in a D/s relationship, you’ve probably wondered about BDSM collar etiquette and meaning. After all, there are so many different types for different situations: consideration, sub training, posture, play, everyday wear, pet, protection, ownership, ceremony, and eternity, just to name a few. And what about other discreet day jewelry […]
Everything You Need to Know About Being a Switch
When most people think of a BDSM relationship, they usually only think of the Dominant and submissive roles (typically a guy and a girl). The truth is, there are many shades of gray on the kink spectrum. Many people (even vanilla ones) enjoy being what’s called a “switch,” and switching from Dom or sub can […]
7 Rules for a Long-Distance Relationship- FREE WORKSHEET
Long-Distance relationships are hard, but especially for those that are Dom/sub. It can be difficult to keep the dynamic going when you’re apart and problems and issues arise. There’s also a lot of bad advice and tips on the internet. But even if you’re apart for just a day, or if circumstances make it so […]
5 Essential Scene Strategies for Your Next Play Session
If you’re new to the lifestyle, or even if you’ve been playing for a while, you’ve probably wondered during a scene, “Am I doing it right?” (The definition of a scene is a BDSM activity or encounter that involves a Dominant and submissive. It may also be referred to as “play” or “session.”) Well, I […]
