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- Have no idea how to get started.
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- Feel isolated. You wish more people could relate to this lifestyle you’re wanting to live.
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Who am I?
My name is Alesandra, and I am OBSESSED with teaching new and experienced Doms and subs how to make their lives more fulfilling through BDSM.
I’ve proudly been in this community for years, as a 24/7 submissive to my husband, Jay. Some of my BDSM roles are sub, masochist, and Daddy’s little girl. Also my vanilla roles are stay-at-home wife, and mother to two young children.
Through online courses, free articles, a training community, and more, I’ve helped over 40,000 kinksters LIKE YOU, live the lifestyle they always wanted.
How did this become my life?
Daddy and I enjoyed kink pretty much our whole marriage, and we would do light BDSM during sex. It wasn’t until we had been married for a while that I started getting interested in the lifestyle. I had always called him Daddy, because I really felt like he was that protective, dominating role in my life. But then I wanted more.
I started researching BDSM online and immediately everything just clicked: this was what I had always been wanting, and not only that, this is what I needed.
I approached my husband, shared what I had read, and told him that I wanted this 24/7. And more importantly, I needed him to want it too. He’s always willing to try anything, and in some ways he’s more kinkier than me, so he agreed. I mean, what husband wouldn’t jump for the opportunity to make their wife have sex whenever they wanted?
We wrote a contract, and renegotiated and collaborated frequently. He asked me many times: “Are you sure this is what you want?” He was afraid that I would someday admit to being fake, that I was just doing it for him, and that I didn’t really want it. That never happened, and it never will, so eventually he stopped asking.
I was happily surprised how seriously he took on his new role. He did research, made up new rituals for me, and of course the sex became hotter and hotter. However, it was really our relationship that saw the most improvement. We were able to discover together what it truly means to be Dominant and submissive.
All of this naturally led to me wanting to start a website with my Daddy’s permission. Because now I want to help others LIKE YOU, build their own, amazing BDSM lifestyle, too. 🖤