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Hello! I’m Alesandra
About your BDSM Training Coach AlesandraI am a passionate member of the BDSM community. But even more, I love helping everyone, from those just getting started to experienced doms and subs, deepen their BDSM play.At Dom Sub Living, we help kinky men and women build their D/s relationships and live the BDSM relationship lifestyle of their dreams.Our BDSM course work helps those new to the practice learn BDSM safely. It helps the experienced among us become better doms or subs. And it helps elevate the discourse today about healthy, kinky sexual exploration.
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Dozens of in-depth BDSM training articles designed to help you jumpstart your skills and mindset. Learn how to live your dom-sub living lifestyle to the fullest.

Topics include safe word selection, power exchange dynamics, novel aspects of BDSM, and so much more. If you are interested in deepening your relationship with kinky sex, we invite you to explore BDSM through our blog.

Our blog is designed to teach you how to get into BDSM, how to learn BDSM best practices, and how to live your best dom sub life. Think of it as your domination and submission encyclopedia.

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Frequently Asked Questions

If you’d like to know more about Dom Sub Living and our unique approach to BDSM training, you’re not alone. Sneak a peek behind the curtain at some of the questions burning inside learners like you. These are our dirty little secrets, laid bare for all to see.

What Are Some of the Topics Covered in Your BDSM Training Courses?

Anyone into BDSM knows no two encounters will ever look the same. That’s why we cover a wide swath of the BDSM scene. Topics covered in our coursework is broad and includes focus areas like:

  • How to start BDSM in your play,
  • Couple power dynamics, including the role of submissive partner and dominant partner,
  • Scene creation,
  • Impact play,
  • And so much more.

Engaging in BDSM doesn’t need to be intimidating (unless you’re into that). It’s about expressing yourself during a moment of connection. Our coursework is here to push that idea forward, to support you, and to help you experience the sex life you dream of.

Will Your Courses Really Help Me Learn BDSM?

In a word: yes. We didn’t start Dom Sub Living to make broken promises. We started it to educate and support. So that couples everywhere could taste the fruits of our experience and live the best dom sub life imaginable.

Where Can I Learn More About Alesandra?

You’re just in luck. We recently hosted an Ask Me Anything session with our fans and Alesandra provided some truly insightful answers. Head over to our AMA page to get to know Alesandra and her approach to BDSM better.