Private, Online BDSM Coaching
One to one BDSM coaching so you can quickly stay on track towards living an amazing BDSM lifestyle.
Join me for a personal BDSM mentoring session. Together we’ll tackle what’s holding you back from reaching your goals as a Dom or sub!
Wouldn’t it be great if you could …
Get Expert D/s Advice
Have access to a BDSM expert who understands where you’re at in your struggles and can show you how to overcome them.
Get to the Root of Your Problems
Dive deep into your mindset issues and find clarity by the end of the day so that you can stay focused.
Receive the Right Amount of Support
No feeling pressured to figure this all out in a rushed, 30-minute call. There’s time to find clarity, strategize, and even implement.
With BDSM coaching from Dom Sub Living, you can more confidently step foot into the world of BDSM. I’ll help you play safely, discover sex positive roles that work for you and your partner. I can even help you both discover power dynamics you may not have known about.
My online BDSM mentor program is designed for helping you with exploring BDSM in a safe and supportive environment.
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What can we talk about during our session?
Here’s some ideas based on what others have come to me about…
Staying on track when life happens
Maybe you feel stuck in a vanilla rut or too caught up in the day to day issues of a 24/7 relationship.
Becoming a better Dom or sub
Mentoring is great if you’re looking to make big changes. Mastering self-discipline and confidence while achieving more consistency is the goal here.
Fixing relationship issues
Maybe you’re struggling in a long-distance relationship, or you want your partner to become better in their role.
My sessions are amenable to your needs. There’s no single agenda or curriculum here. From impact play or safe word selection to optimizing your BDSM scene, we can craft a mentorship dynamic that speaks to your unique needs.
Learning BDSM has never been easier or more convenient. Mine is a BDSM life coach service designed around your needs and your lifestyle. If you’d like to get a taste for how I approach support for the BDSM community, check out my free resources.
How does BDSM coaching and mentoring work?
A Day of Mentoring is a different offering than what you’re maybe used to seeing. Here’s what it looks like on your end…
- Choose a date + book a session
You don’t need to free your calendar for this. This offering is very normal life friendly (think things like going to work, picking up kids from school, walking your dog, etc). You just need to make sure you have enough time between your day’s activities to listen and reply to messages. You’ll also want to make sure you have the mental space to ask questions and process what we talk about. - Set up a FREE Circle account
Circle is a free community app that you can download to your mobile device or use on your computer. It’s used to chat privately with me, while also having the luxury of playing audio back. I’ll first invite you to my Circle community. You can then send me a message in advance to be sure we’re connected before our day together. - When you’re day comes, you’ll have access to me for 8 hours
Don’t worry – this isn’t an 8 hour long chat! You’re not expected or supposed to be sitting by your phone waiting for replies. We’ll be exchanging messages throughout the day at a steady yet relaxed pace. It’s not rushed.
The best thing about a Day of Mentoring is that we have space in between messages to think about ideas, and to take action. That’s part of what makes a Day of Mentoring so effective.
Meet Your Personal, BDSM Relationship Coach
Hi, I’m Alesandra!
As a BDSM instructor and kink strategist, I’ve taught more than 10,000 students how to start and grow their Dom/sub lifestyles.
Whether you’re single, a couple, Dominant, submissive, or Switch, you’ll get support from an expert who has been in your shoes already. I understand your struggles and I know how to help you elevate your BDSM play.
My Dom and I have a successful 24/7 relationship. I’ve also helped hundreds of other students overcome the vanilla rut and get back on track. With both mentoring and BDSM course instruction, the success stories are as plentiful as they are inspiring.
We’ve been exactly where you are right now and I can’t wait to share our skills and knowledge with you!
Frequently Asked Questions About BDSM Coaching
What is a BDSM Mentor?
A BDSM mentor is an experienced practitioner who guides newcomers in the BDSM community. They educate on safety, consensual practices, and techniques, offer advice on navigating the community, and provide emotional support. Mentors emphasize safe, sane, and consensual practices and serve as role models, demonstrating ethical behavior in BDSM relationships.
It is perfect for those just learning BDSM, for those who want to brush up on the latest practices, or for those who want to push their play further. A qualified BDSM coach should be able to guide you regardless of your role (dom, sub, switch, or otherwise).
When done digitally, you can rely on your online BDSM mentor to provide guidance and alignment on all aspects of your play. Mentoring is offered in a way that conveniently fits into your schedule. Engage with them like you would a virtual therapist, asynchronous life coach, etc. This is a BDSM life coach dynamic that’s all about you!
What if we’re in different timezones?
I’ll be available for 8 hours during our day during our BDSM life coach session. This means, most time zones get at least a handful of hours of conversation during a mentoring session.
What if I need to reschedule?
Life happens, right? If you need to reschedule, I ask that you please give me 24 hours notice. I only take one chat session per day. So if you cancel at the last minute, you’ve taken away what could have been someone else’s best day for having their chat.
To reschedule a BDSM coaching session, simply click the rescheduling link in your confirmation email.
How much time is included in a mentoring session?
You’ll have me “on call” for 8 hours. Don’t worry. This doesn’t mean we’ll be communicating nonstop for the full 8 hours. That’s just the window during which we’ll be exchanging messages.
How available do I need to be over the course of the session?
This is great for busy people! During our call, we’ll be exchanging messages at a slow yet steady pace throughout the day. I designed my BDSM coaching to be as flexible and convenient as my BDSM course offerings.
You’ll want to make sure you have enough time to listen and reply to messages, and to really absorb the conversation. But this is something you can do on the go as well. I’ll try to be as responsive as possible. We will be able to do a little back-and-forth, but it’s not like we’re on a call all day together.
What is Circle and is it free?
Circle is a free app where we host our community and courses. It’s similar to Discord and we can chat back and forth on it through text/voice messages.
You’ll simply download the app on your phone (there is a desktop option too) to private message me. Soon, we’ll be able to connect instantly with both voice and text. This won’t involve any video chat. So don’t worry if you are wearing pajamas or haven’t washed your hair – I will never know!
Can my partner and I do a group chat with you?
Absolutely! When you book your day, there’ll be a space for you to add your partner’s email. Just have them create their own Circle account, and I can create a group chat for us.
Together, we can optimize your BDSM activities. We can delve into safe practices with role playing or power exchanges. Or we can tackle any other topic you desire.
What are your rates?
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