Private, Online BDSM Coach

One to one BDSM coaching so you can quickly stay on track towards living an amazing BDSM lifestyle.

Join me for a personal mentoring session, and together we’ll tackle what’s holding you back from reaching your goals as a Dom or sub!

Book Your Private BDSM Mentoring Session

Wouldn’t it be great if you could …

Get Expert D/s Advice

Have access to a BDSM expert who understands where you’re at in your struggles and can show you how to overcome them.

Get to the Root of Your Problems

Dive deep into your mindset issues and find clarity by the end of the day so that you can stay focused.

Receive the Right Amount of Support

No feeling pressured to figure this all out in a rushed, 30-minute call. There’s time to find clarity, strategize, and even implement.

MY COURSES + WORK HAVE BEEN FEATURED IN…

All Our BDSM Courses

What can we talk about during our session?

Here’s some ideas based on what others have come to me about…

Woman feeling as though she’s in a vanilla rut

Staying on track when life happens

Maybe you feel stuck in a vanilla rut, or too caught up in the day to day issues of a 24/7 relationship.

Becoming a better Dom or sub

Mentoring is great if you’re looking to make big changes – mastering self-discipline and confidence while achieving more consistency.

A BDSM coach can assist with relationship issues

Fixing relationship issues

Maybe you’re struggling in a long-distance relationship, or you want your partner to become better in their role.

How does BDSM mentoring work?

A Day of Mentoring is a different offering than what you’re maybe used to seeing. Here’s what it looks like on your end…

Choose a date + book a session
You don’t need to free your calendar for this. This offering is very normal life friendly (think things like going to work, picking up kids from school, walking your dog, etc). You just need to make sure you have enough time between your day’s activities to listen and reply to messages – as well as the mental space to ask questions and process what we talk about.
Set up a FREE Circle account
Circle is a free community app that you can download to your mobile device or use on your computer to chat privately with me, while also having the luxury of playing audio back. I’ll invite you to my Circle community, and you can send me a message in advance to be sure we’re connected before our day together.
When you’re day comes, you’ll have access to me for 8 hours
Don’t worry – this isn’t an 8 hour long chat, and you’re not expected or supposed to be sitting by your phone waiting for replies. We’ll be exchanging messages throughout the day at a steady yet relaxed pace. It’s not rushed. The best thing about a Day of Mentoring is that we have space in between messages to think about ideas, and to take action. That’s part of what makes a Day of Mentoring so effective.

Meet Your Personal, BDSM Relationship Coach

Hi, I’m Alesandra!

As a BDSM instructor and kink strategist, I’ve taught more than 10,000 students how to start and grow their Dom/sub lifestyles.

Whether you’re single, a couple, Dominant, submissive, or Switch, you’ll get support from an expert who has been in your shoes already and understands your struggles.

My Dom and I have a successful 24/7 relationship, and I’ve helped hundreds of other students overcome the vanilla rut and get back on track. We’ve been exactly where you are right now and I can’t wait to share our skills and knowledge with you!

I’m Alesandra, your private BDSM life & relationship coach

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Frequently Asked Questions About BDSM Coaching

What is a BDSM Mentor?

A BDSM mentor is an experienced practitioner who guides newcomers in the BDSM community. They educate on safety, consensual practices, and techniques, offer advice on navigating the community, and provide emotional support. Mentors emphasize safe, sane, and consensual practices and serve as role models, demonstrating ethical behavior in BDSM relationships.

What if we’re in different timezones?

I’ll be available for 8 hours during our day. This means, most time zones get at least a handful of hours of conversation during a mentoring session.

What if I need to reschedule?

Life happens, right? If you need to reschedule, I ask that you please give me 24 hours notice. I only take one chat session per day, so if you cancel at the last minute, you’ve taken away what could have been someone else’s best day for having their chat. To reschedule, simply click the rescheduling link in your confirmation email.

How much time is included in a mentoring session?

You’ll have me “on call” for 8 hours. Don’t worry. This doesn’t mean we’ll be communicating nonstop for the full 8 hours. That’s just the window during which we’ll be exchanging messages.

How available do I need to be over the course of the session?

This is great for busy people! During our call, we’ll be exchanging messages at a slow yet steady pace throughout the day. You’ll want to make sure you have enough time to listen and reply to messages, and to really absorb the conversation. But this is something you can do on the go as well. I’ll try to be as responsive as possible, and we will be able to do a little back-and-forth, but it’s not like we’re on a call all day together.

What is Circle and is it free?

Circle is a free app where we host our community and courses. It’s similar to Discord and we can chat back and forth on it through text/voice messages. You’ll simply download the app on your phone (there is a desktop option too), private message me, and we’ll be able to connect instantly with both voice and text. This won’t involve any video chat (so don’t worry if you are wearing pajamas or haven’t washed your hair – I will never know!)

Can my partner and I do a group chat with you?

Absolutely! When you book your day, there’ll be a space for you to add your partner’s email. Just have them create their own Circle account, and I can create a group chat for us.

I have one more question before I book.

No problem! Just send me a message using the chat box at the bottom right corner of this page and I’ll get back to you.

Ready to get started?