Guide to Incorporating Submissive Positions into Your Routine
TL;DR: This guide explores how to physically embody a submissive role in BDSM by using specific poses to enhance power exchange and deepen connection with a Dom. It includes practical advice, mindset reminders, and position breakdowns to support intentional, respectful, and exciting BDSM play.
When you take on the submissive role in your relationship, you want to do it right for your partner. Part of this might be getting into the right headspace and fully embodying a submissive persona during play. But the other side, which is no less important, is the right physical space.
BDSM is as much a power dynamic of our bodies as it is of our hearts and minds, after all. It’s with this in mind that I’ve put together a helpful guide on different BDSM submissive positions to explore with your partner.
Follow this guide and you’re sure to be a better submissive partner to your Dom!
A Reminder About the Submissive Mindset
Before we dive into the submissive positioning, it’s worth reiterating that impact play isn’t about arbitrary standards. It’s about giving yourself over to an experience that speaks precisely to your needs and the needs of your partner.
So, while any of these submissive poses are great options to consider, not all of them will be right for everyone. Instead, focus on the ones that are body comfortable and that meet the goals you’ve set for yourself as a submissive partner. And when in doubt, talk to your partner during aftercare.
With that said, let’s go through some of my favorite positions for submissives for your consideration:
Inspection
Think of this position as an opportunity to display yourself to your Dom. Stand with legs apart and arms extended up with hands behind your head. This pose shows your Dom that every inch of your body is theirs to inspect and use as they wish.
Wait
This one is sometimes referred to as Kajira and is all about anticipation. Standing with legs spread wide and hands behind the small of your back, open your shoulders and ribcage. In this position, you indicate you’re waiting for instructions that may or may not come.
Attention
This standing position is similar to Wait, but with a slight alteration. Attention is about showing your Dom that you are ready for their command at a moment’s notice. Think of this position as if you’re a military officer, taking orders from an angry drill sergeant. Standing tall with your arms at your side and your legs firmly planted together shows you’re ready and up for anything!
Nadu
This is a classic subservience pose and just radiates compliance. In a kneeling position, with your feet tucked under your buttocks, rest the backs of your hands atop your thighs. Then, look straight ahead and let your openness (and your upturned palms) do the talking for you.
Stool
Not to be confused with Table or Humble (which are also great BDSM poses to consider), this is a reverent position. It is intended to heighten your Dom’s domineering position over you. You may have seen it noted elsewhere as Obeisance.
On your knees and elbows, flatten both your back and your feet and let your head hang down. Without the ability to see what may happen next, all you can do is wait for the action to begin.
As a side note, it’s also a great position for doggy style or to incorporate your collar and leash play!
More BDSM Submissive Positions to Consider
There are countless others that kinksters use during encounters, but who has the time to discuss them all? Here’s a quick list of what you can consider my honorable mentions:
- Capture – Lie on your back like a sex doll and await your fate!
- Floor – The perfect face-down position to take before a crawl.
- Wall – Similar to Inspection, but where you face away from your partner with a wall obstructing your view.
Wrapping Up
I hope you found my list of submissive poses informative and exhilarating. You may have even noticed you’ve already taken some of those positions for submissives without even knowing it!
Either way, though, this guide is a good reminder that kink play is about growth. We’re all learning and evolving all the time. So—assuming you’re not tied up at the moment—pat yourself on the back for seeking out some new flavors.
Become a Better Sub for a Better Sex Life
BDSM poses are great and all, but being a better partner isn’t just about a willingness to try new things. It’s also about bringing safe, tested, and effective new experiences into the bedroom.
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