How We Built a 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship, Step-by-Step (Ep. 8)
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In today’s episode, we are going to dive deep into the steps we took to establish our 24/7 Total Power Exchange (TPE) relationship. It’s been quite the journey, and I’m thrilled to share it with you!
IN THIS EPISODE
- Using safe words and the importance of clear communication in a BDSM relationship.
- Creating a written contract to establish goals, roles, and intentions within the relationship.
- Using regular check-ins and open communication to address needs, challenges, and improvements.
- Implementing a total power exchange (TPE) and the creation of rituals and scenes to enhance the Dom/sub dynamic.
- Keeping the lifestyle fun and enjoyable while exploring new aspects of BDSM and power exchange.
Step 1: Research and Education
When my partner, Jay, and I embarked on this journey, we knew we had a lot to learn. We delved into books, online resources, and attended classes and events to expand our knowledge of BDSM. This step allowed us to understand the different dynamics and possibilities within the lifestyle like 24/7 Total Power Exchange.
Step 2: Define Roles and Dynamics
After gathering information, we spent hours discussing and exploring our desires and fantasies. We knew we wanted our dynamic to extend beyond the bedroom, and we embraced elements of both Daddy Dom/little girl and Master/slave relationships.
Step 3: Establishing Boundaries and Safe Words
One crucial aspect of any BDSM relationship is setting boundaries and establishing safewords. Jay and I were no different. We discussed our hard and soft limits, ensuring that we were both comfortable and consenting throughout our journey. We also established safewords (red and yellow) as a means of clear and immediate communication during scenes to honor our boundaries.
Step 4: Creating a Written Contract
The decision to create a written contract was a significant step for us. This document not only outlined our roles, responsibilities, and protocols but also served as a guide to navigate our relationship successfully. It helped us set goals, define our intentions, and put our desires and roles in writing. We can’t stress enough how essential this document has been in keeping us on the same page.
To make things easier for you, we are offering a free printable contract template you can download by clicking the image below.
Step 5: Regular Check-Ins and Open Communication
Open lines of communication are the lifeblood of any relationship, especially in BDSM dynamics. We implemented daily and weekly check-ins, where we discuss our needs, wants, challenges, and progress.
This practice ensures that we address issues promptly, avoid resentment, and keep the lines of communication open. We cannot overstate the importance of regular check-ins, as they have been crucial in the evolution of our relationship.
Step 6: Embracing 24/7 Total Power Exchange (TPE)
During one of our weekly check-ins, we discovered that we wanted to take our dynamic to the next level—a total power exchange. It was a decision that required extensive communication, trust, and consent from both of us. With the TPE in place, Jay became the Dominant, controlling every aspect of our lives, and I became the submissive, needing permission for certain actions.
Step 7: Rituals and Daily Structure
To solidify our TPE dynamic, Jay and I created a schedule with specific rituals and scenes. These rituals include morning and nightly routines, as well as weekly scenes in which we explore our kinks and power exchange.
The Dominant controls everything and delegates tasks to the submissive, adding an extra layer of intensity to our daily lives.
We are aware that these dynamics may seem abusive to outsiders, but rest assured, our relationship is built on trust, communication, and absolute consent.
Step 8: Building Our Own 24/7 System
As our TPE relationship evolved, we realized the need for a structured system to manage our roles, rituals, and check-ins effectively. This system eventually became our very own Dom Sub Training course, a tool that keeps us focused and prevents us from falling into a “vanilla rut.” It ensures that we continuously challenge ourselves and keep the lifestyle fun and enjoyable.
Continuing Your Journey
Our journey towards a 24/7 Total Power Exchange (TPE) relationship has been both exciting and fulfilling. From researching and establishing boundaries to embracing a TPE dynamic, we have learned valuable lessons along the way. Through open communication and regular check-ins, we have cultivated a relationship that is built on trust, consent, and mutual empowerment.
Remember, BDSM dynamics are all about consent, respect, and negotiation. If you want to embark on this journey, take your time to educate yourself, communicate openly with your partner, and most importantly, prioritize safety and consent.
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