One of the most misunderstood types of BDSM relationships is the Daddy Dom/little girl dynamic (or DD/lg). For some, it’s just fun role-playing with clothing and outfits. For others, it is their identity. Even though there are many benefits to ageplay, it can be hard to know what things to say to someone who feels this lifestyle is wrong. Keep reading to learn all about the DD/lg rules, definition of “little space”, Daddy dominant traits, and get new ideas, so you can enjoy ageplay responsibly.
Note: Although this article primarily refers to Daddy Doms and little girls, the tips, ideas, and DD/lg rules can also apply to Mommy Dommes and little boys.
How I Got Started with the DDlg Lifestyle
Ever since I became sexually active, I always had a “Daddy kink”. I loved calling my now Dom, Daddy, and enjoyed being coy and pretending to be innocent. I bought school girl outfits and was drawn to anything Disney. Unfortunately I did have “Daddy issues” growing up, and the fact that my father passed away when I was 13 just compounded them even more.
Being in this DDlg lifestyle with my partner was a healthy way for me to explore this kink without fear, shame, or enabling what could have been harmful experiences. Since my partner never had a father, it was also very therapeutic for him to be the role that he never had in his life. It was extremely empowering for both of us.
DDlg Meaning & Relationship Dynamics
Ageplaying involves treating the sub like they are a certain age, usually younger, anywhere from toddler to teenager. As a result, the sub treats their Dom like their Daddy. He takes on the paternal role of protector and caregiver, and administers discipline and training when needed. The sub becomes his “little” and relies on him emotionally, physically, and even sexually and sometimes financially.
Ageplayers are NOT pedophiles. The definition of pedophilia is having sexual feelings towards children. A sub is not a child, but is a consenting adult. Therefore, a Daddy Dom wants to be with HIS little girl, not little girls in general.
Why is the DD/lg Relationship so Fulfilling for Ageplayers?
It can be hard to explain this lifestyle or know what things to say to someone who doesn’t understand this kink. Basically, age playing and DDlg satisfy both individuals involved on many levels:
How to Be a Daddy Dom
Usually men are naturally attracted to youth and innocence, and having a little meets that need continuously. They will also have the satisfaction of having someone rely and dote on them, and counting on them to “fix it” when things get hard. Similarly, littles are constantly seeking the praise and attention of their Daddy and will do their best to please him.
When his baby girl disobeys rules, a Daddy Dom also gets the fulfillment of disciplining her in any way he desires, (and she has consented to). She will also come to him with her sexual needs, as he knows how best to please her.
How to Be the Little Girl
In a symbiotic way, what makes the Daddy happy fulfills the little’s needs and vice versa. She will be made to feel eternally youthful and beautiful, and he will spoil her and cherish her. Subs that choose this relationship are usually emotionally fragile at times, and having a supportive, paternal figure is very soothing.
Likewise, being told they’re a “good girl” makes sub ageplayers feel extremely content. And obeying the DD/lg rules and knowing they’re making their Daddy happy gives them immense reassurance. For example, head pats and forehead kisses mean the world to me.
How to Live the DD/lg Lifestyle
Now that you know the real definition for ageplay and what both the Daddy Dom and little girl get out of it, here are some of my experiences and ideas for making it work:
DDlg Ideas
The Daddy Dom ultimately chooses the clothing his little girl wears, but short skirts, dresses, and having their hair in braids or pigtails is usual protocol. School girl outfits are very popular, and Brazilian waxes are a great way to get that look and feel for ageplaying.
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Daddy Dominant Traits and Things to Say as a Daddy Dom
Littles should refer to their Dom as Daddy, and always ask them for permission, just like a dependent child would. Daddys need to call their littles by appropriate names like Baby Girl, and conversations and lectures are more enjoyable when she’s told to sit on his lap.
Littles also usually require a softer approach when being dominated. Good Daddy Dominant traits are being nurturing, caring but strict, being a good listener, and supportive. Here are some ideas for things to say:
- “Be a good girl.”
- “Behave.”
- “Do you need a spanking?”
- “I’m proud of you.”
- “You’re too little to do that, let me help you.”
- “Be careful.”
- “Let me touch/see your princess parts.”
- “Use your words.”
- “Let’s have cuddle time.”
- “Don’t worry, I’ll make it all better.”
DD/lg Rules, Little Space, and Other Ideas
DDlg revolves around wanting to please and fearing disapproval, so rewards and punishments are vital. Therefore pats on the head and forehead kisses mean a lot, and spankings are usually a must. In addition, keeping the attitude of “Daddy knows best” will also deepen intimacy.
Good DD/lg rules for littles include:
- A set bedtime
- No swearing
- Keeping their room clean
- Eating their fruits and vegetables
- Screentime limits
The definition of “Little Space” is a state of mind submissive ageplayers enter when they’re deeply feeling little. Here are some ideas for age appropriate activities to help a sub enter little space more easily:
- Coloring
- Reading stories together
- Having a stuffie
- Keeping a journal
- Cuddling
- Watching cartoons
- Going on outings together
- Using stickers
Ageplaying is a great way to mix childlike innocence with naughty sexual curiosity. Don’t listen to people who try to say that ageplay is wrong. The DD/lg lifestyle can become the basis for a healthy BDSM relationship, and bring even more happiness to both the Dom and his sub.
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Are you a Daddy Dom or little girl? How do you feel about DD/lg rules and ageplay? Chat with me in the comments.
I have found my Daddy and I am elated. We have been apart for 12 weeks and I will see him again on Saturday. He has bought a vanilla collar and he will put that engagement ring on my finger on the weekend. I get to marry my Dom Daddy. I get to be looked after and loved and controlled and contained for ever.
This is exactly what I’ve been looking for. I’m not very experienced in the lifestyle, but taking care of a little is an extremely attractive idea. Your article is inspiring.
Very good read. My submissive is not a little, but as a Dominant, I truly enjoy reading about other aspects of our lifestyle.
Keep up the good work.
RA.
This was a perfect read today. DDlg is something my Master approached me with recently. I really thought it was silly, (honestly), but after reading your blog, I may give it some thought. He is everything you described here. As always, love your blog!
Great article, and I’ve tried explaining this several times to very close friends that find it creepy. I’m a bratty sub with little traits (especially when feeling extra sensitive). You hit the nail(s) on the head with all the things!
Thank you!
Your article was such a welcome one to see!
When Daddy and I first had the conversation about our lifestyle, Daddy explained a “Daddy Dom” was just what He was. For me to voice that I felt “Little” most of the time, and having Him know that, took a weight off me and made me more comfortable with who I am. Even though we don’t live together, we are 24/7 in the relationship and it works great for us!
Thank you for your lovely explanation of the DDlg lifestyle!
Amazing article and as a practiced daddy dom who is looking for a new little girl I can honestly say this is spot on information.
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My Daddy and I love our lifestyle. He has always been very protective and caring over me. We started my Little Space soon after I started reading about it. It was an easy transition for us. It has taken our relationship to the next level. When he asks me how his little princess is? My heart just melts and I feel like a very special little girl who has the best daddy ever! Thank you for your blog. You are awesome!
This really is a fantastic read! DDLG never was weird to me. I’ve been a natural Dom for as long as I remember. Only about a month ago I met my first true little. She is unbelievable. We live a 24/7 DDLG and neither one of us could be happier. I’ve tried to train women who want to be little but they just can’t in my experience because a part of them grew out of that or is ashamed of it I’m not sure. But my little doesn’t want to be called anything but little and treats me like a man more than any other woman ever did and I’m 52 years old. This is the most rewarding lifestyle I could have ever imagined. Finally I found the right person!
I am a little and when I read about ddlg I asked my daddy if he wanted to try it and he said yes! Daddy and I love this life style. Going into my little place at work is hard but kind of fun. I just wish I worked somewhere were I could be me all the time.
I recently was told that I am a little. I didn’t realize what that was until I started researching. I started by calling my Dom Daddy and things just clicked from there. One day he just said, “You do realize that you are a little right?” And I denied it. Then I looked it up and talked to some friends and they agreed. So I am new to this, even though I’ve been in the lifestyle for 12 years.
This is the perfect read. I’m new to the lifestyle as I’m just discovering that I’m a little. I’ve been researching and this post helped so much. I hope to find a Daddy to fulfill my Little lifestyle ❤️
Resently I have been able to explore my little side more, with my mommy dom who is my girlfriend as well. This post gave me some insight on some things I never think about.
Thank you so much for your article! It came at the perfect time! I have been a baby girl for 6 months, so this is very new to me. However, I feel like I have always identified as a baby girl! Dollie’s and stuffy’s included, it helped me to accept myself and be ok with bringing them out. Feeling youthful and beautiful is the most wonderful at 63. Lol! Daddy punished his baby girl as she broke the rules. This baby girl does not like to be a bad baby girl! So it was very hard. Sometimes being new to our 24/7 exchange is hard to grasp. Your words help put everything back into perspective! Thank you so much ☺️
I am a DD with a new little because we recently married at 60 after both being widowed a couple years ago. She just retired as a professor and loves being mine. We find that these roles are a fun escape from our responsible lives. I think it’s a freedom she has never known. Me too. I start my day very early, but start our day together by bringing her morning tea in bed when it’s time for her to get up. “Good morning, Baby Doll.” I love saying that and watching her smile up at me while saying “Good morning, Daddy.” When I was widowed I had the chance to find a young woman as a wife. Instead I found someone my age who is with me on the arc of life instead of far behind me. I think that is important because we both have the wisdom and perspective of age. With this lifestyle she gets to feel young and see herself as a young beautiful woman, which is how I see her anyway. And being Daddy inspires me to be a better man, and a better lover. Hey, I’ve got a “30” year old wife – I can’t have sex with her as a 60 year old man. We laugh that when she is 90 years old she will pretend to be my 60 year old wife.
Happy for you! 👍👍🙂
I just want to make one point that is important to with respect to some Littles. Some Littles are non-sexual as Littles. It’s an important discussion to have since getting sexual with a non-sexual little will break trust.
As someone who was ignorant to this type of lifestyle (been in the BDSM am for a like bit so still fairly new), this article has definitely changed my outlook and has sparked my curiosity! I think my partner has secretly been wanting to do this (since signs have been there for a while now) and before I didn’t think I’d be into it but reading this has changed my mind perspective completely and has even made me realize that I might have a little bit of “Little” in me trying to break free!
P.S. Jeff, your comment was one of the most romantic things I’ve seen ❤️ Really happy for you
i don’t have a daddy but i hope when i do get a daddy he is like all of this. I have read all of this and it made me smile and with all the littles out there and daddys i hope you are all happy but i dont know what im saying but yeah.
Where can someone go to find someone to actually talk to for advice on finding what you need to begin the lifestyle change you crave?
DD here. I’ve spent a long time avoiding a DD/lg situation because of the stigma and a fear of breaking trust. Reading this helps, thank you. It’s good to know I’m not alone in this. It’s impossible to explain to most folks how the desire to caretake and sexual desire can get intertwined.
My wife and I already have a healthy relationship I’m 61 sh is 62 but wanted something different. The role of Daddy and her as Kitten don’t go as far as child’s play but she loves being submissive anyway and I am the dominant mountain man Viking kind of guy anyway. She looks like she is in her late thirties so get to pick clothing, lingerie, sex toys, events, activities etc. she loves it and I love it.
I thought I was Domme, but am having soooo much fun being a babygirl!