Why I Quit My Vanilla Relationship to Become a Full-Time Submissive (Ep. 3)
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In this exciting episode, I wanted to share my personal story and reveal the driving force behind my decision to become a full-time submissive. As a BDSM instructor and D/s relationship coach, I am often asked what led me down this path. Today, I’m here to share my thoughts and experiences with you.
IN THIS EPISODE
- My personal journey of becoming a full-time submissive and why I chose to leave my vanilla relationship behind.
- The various reasons people get into BDSM.
- The importance of not just starting, but continuing to explore BDSM and the reasons behind your desires.
- My desire to be the best version of myself and to serve my Dominant to the best of my abilities.
- Why you should question your own motivations, and discover your ultimate goal in practicing BDSM.
Unleashing the Desire for Authenticity
Growing up, I yearned to be the best version of myself. As a wife and a parent, I already had important roles, but I felt there was something missing—a deeper challenge that would push my boundaries and help me grow. My personality type, as an Enneagram One, drives me to strive for perfection and advocate for causes I believe in.
When I discovered BDSM and the dynamics of Dominance and submission, I was captivated. I knew I wanted to fully explore this lifestyle, to give my all as a submissive.
Wholehearted Commitment as a Full-Time Submissive
From my school days, I’ve always had a tendency to go all in. I always dedicate myself completely to whatever I’m interested in. Being a submissive was no different—I was willing to embrace every aspect and challenge that came with it.
The vanilla aspects of my life, just being a mom and a wife, started feeling like they were holding me back. I craved more than just titles; I wanted to embody the best version of myself through submission. This desire moved me to pursue this lifestyle on a full-time basis.
Understanding the Complexity of D/s Relationships
BDSM requires a level of communication and involvement that can surpass that of a vanilla relationship. It goes beyond just engaging in kinky acts and seeks to establish multiple layers of connection and understanding.
Whether engaging in scenes with a beginning, middle, and end or engaging in aftercare, BDSM demands a deep level of engagement. As I delved deeper into my submissive role, I realized the complexity of this lifestyle and the immense reward it brings.
The Power of Purpose
Embracing BDSM was not merely about indulging in kink or surface-level desires. For me, it was a means to evolve and unleash my true potential. Being a submissive wasn’t about relinquishing control or opting out of decision-making; it was about having the opportunity to serve my Dominant and be the best version of myself in that role.
The transformational power of submission has given me a sense of purpose and has allowed me to positively impact the lives of others through my advocacy and coaching.
Finding Your Why
If you’re reading this article and contemplating the world of Dominance, submission, or switching, I encourage you to explore your motivations. Discover the true reasons behind your desires and goals.
Perhaps it is the pursuit of freedom, embracing your authentic self, shedding society’s imposed shame, or experiencing an ideal relationship. BDSM offers so much more than what meets the eye, and understanding your personal motivations will help guide you on your journey.
Embracing the Challenges
Living the BDSM lifestyle is not without its challenges. It requires commitment, self-discovery, and constant growth. It’s not a shallow pursuit; it delves deep into the core of your being. But in this pursuit, you unveil your authentic self and experience profound connections with others who share your desires.
The effort you invest is rewarded tenfold when you witness the positive impact it has on your relationships and personal growth.
Staying True to Yourself
As we conclude this episode of Dom Sub Living, I want to invite you to reflect on your own desires and motivations. What draws you to the world of BDSM? What do you hope to achieve as a Dom, sub, or switch? Understanding our “whys” in this journey is essential for staying committed through the difficulties and embracing the incredible transformation that awaits.
Thank you for joining me today and being a part of the Dom Sub Living community. If you’re looking for guidance to kickstart your BDSM journey, grab our free guide here. Remember, whether you’re a Dom, sub, or switch, you have the power to embrace the authenticity of your desires and pleasure through the practice of BDSM.
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