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Are you curious about impact play but unsure where to start? Don’t worry—you’re not alone. Today I’m excited to share five impact play ideas that are fun, safe, and easy to try and great for beginners. Trust me, you don’t need expensive tools or tons of experience to make this amazing. So, let’s dive into the exhilarating world of impact play!
IN THIS EPISODE
- Discover 5 beginner-friendly impact play ideas to spice up your BDSM experience.
- Learn how to use everyday items like wooden spoons for exciting sensations.
- Explore the versatility of floggers, paddles, and riding crops in your scenes.
- Get practical tips for communication and consent to enhance your play.
- Understand essential safety guidelines and aftercare techniques for impact play.
What is Impact Play?
First things first—what is impact play? In simple terms, impact play involves creating controlled sensations on the body using tools or even just your hands. The intensity can range from light and playful to more intense, depending on what you and your partner enjoy.
When I first started, I thought it had to be super intense or painful to count as real impact play. But I learned quickly that it’s more about creating a connection, not just leaving marks on your body. Although let’s be honest, the marks can be fun, too!
The Importance of Communication
Before we get into the impact play ideas, let’s talk about the importance of communication. Consent is crucial. You and your partner should discuss what you’re curious about, what areas feel good to explore, and what might be off-limits.
A helpful tip is to use a scale of 1 to 10 to describe the intensity levels—like starting at a 3 to see how it feels. This keeps everything clear and avoids confusion. To assist you further, our free contract includes a scale to use when negotiating these scenes with your partner.
Five Beginner-Friendly Impact Play Ideas
1. Hands Only
Using your hands is a great place to start because they are versatile and intuitive. When you’re using your hands, you can feel your partner’s response immediately, allowing you to adjust the intensity.
Start with light taps on the fleshy areas like the butt and thighs, and gradually increase your intensity while checking in with your partner. Alternating speeds can create different sensations. Hands are always with you, making this an accessible and intimate way to begin impact play.
2. Wooden Spoon
A wooden spoon is another incredibly budget-friendly tool. It’s a common household item that’s perfect for creating sharp yet controlled sensations. The best part? No one will think twice if they see it in your home.
For beginners, hold the spoon towards the base for better control and test it on your own thigh first to gauge the sensation. Avoid using the edges, which can be too sharp, and always strike with the flat side for a more even impact.
3. Flogger
Floggers are fantastic for beginners because their multiple strands distribute the impact, making it gentler than canes or whips. Practice your aim on a pillow first to ensure proper distribution of the strands.
Start with wide sweeping motions, targeting areas like the upper back, thighs, and butt. Avoid bony areas or the kidneys. Floggers come in different sizes and materials, so you can choose one that fits your scene perfectly.
Check out our affiliate partner, Stockroom, for some excellent options.
4. Paddle
Paddles are incredibly effective and versatile, coming in various materials and sizes. You can find paddles that are soft and playful or firm and intense. Use the flat side for a more broad impact and experiment with different rhythms, mixing light taps with firmer strikes. The sound of a paddle striking can add a thrilling auditory element to your scene, enhancing the sensory experience.
For a diverse selection, visit my favorite online shop: Stockroom.
5. Riding Crop
The riding crop is my personal favorite due to its precision and dramatic sound. It’s perfect for targeting specific areas like the thighs, shoulders, or more intimate parts of the body. Hold the handle or the middle, start with light taps, and work up to more full strikes. Avoid bony areas to prevent injury.
The anticipation of not knowing when the next impact will come is part of the fun. Try using a blindfold for added suspense and excitement.
Safety Tips for Beginners
Safety is extremely important when engaging in impact play. Avoid bony areas, joints, and organs like the kidneys. Always have a safe word system in place—something like green for “keep going,” yellow for “slow down,” and red for “stop.” Check in frequently during scenes and ensure you have aftercare planned.
Aftercare helps both bodies and minds come down after a scene. This can include cuddling, a warm drink, or just some quiet time together. Remember to massage and care for the areas that received the impact to help soothe them.
Embracing Impact Play
Which of these 5 ideas are you most excited to try? Or do you have a favorite tool I didn’t mention? Impact play can add so much excitement and connection to your BDSM dynamic. Remember, it’s not about having the most expensive gear or the most intense experiences – it’s about exploring together and finding what works for you and your partner.
Links From the Episode:
- My favorite online shop for impact gear: Stockroom
- Access the free resource library
- Dom Sub Training course
- Free contract template
- Free kinks checklist
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