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Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge! (Ep. 45)
Bratting can add playful energy to your BDSM dynamic, but how do you balance fun and respect? Learn effective ways to turn bratting into a positive force…
The BDSM Olympics: Top 10 Kinky Skills Revealed (Ep. 43)
Master the art of BDSM with our kink Olympic decathlon! Dive into rope bondage, impact play, sensory deprivation, and more to elevate your scenes and…
From BDSM Newbie to Expert: Navigating the Stages of Your D/s Journey (Ep. 41)
Curious about BDSM but unsure where to start? Or ready to advance your skills? We’re guiding you through the stages from newbie to expert and…
Navigating BDSM with a Disability: Empowering Your Journey (Ep. 38)
We’re exploring how inclusivity enriches the BDSM community, with practical tips on adapting to disabilities and embracing your journey…
What Is Shibari? A Deep Dive into Japanese Rope Bondage
Unraveling the threads of different kink practices, we stumble upon the art form of Japanese rope bondage, raising the question: What is Shibari BDSM? In this article, we’ll untangle the complexities of Japanese bondage, highlighting the essential aspects of safety, consent, and the intimate connection between the Rigger and the model. Get ready to learn […]
4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive (Ep. 28)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE I’m thrilled to share this episode on how to be a better submissive, which is packed with insights to help you blossom in your BDSM journey. So, let’s dive into the art of becoming an even better sub! Improving Your Role as a Submissive: Free Cheat […]
Connecting with the Kink Community (Ep. 26)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving deep into the heart of community within our diverse scene—discussing everything from munches to dungeons and everything in between. So, let’s unravel some of those discussions here in a way that I hope will empower you to step out and connect with your fellow […]
Foolproof BDSM Advice (Ep. 25)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today we’re delving deep into a subject that is both personal and pivotal for anyone who is exploring the realms of BDSM. As someone who has navigated the complexities of power dynamics, I’ve heard my fair share of advice – some good, and some outright dangerous. […]
Types of Bondage: A Journey into the Realm of Restraint
Embarking on a journey into the realm of BDSM can be thrilling, exhilarating and, for some, a little intimidating. One essential aspect that often piques fascination is all the different types of bondage. We’ll explore the vast variations of bondage types. From Shibari bondage, predicament bondage, to even torture bondage, each method serves a unique […]
The Ultimate BDSM Checklist for Kinks, Limits & More
(Free Printable Kink Checklist!) When you’re engaging in the kink lifestyle, it’s important to have a BDSM checklist. You probably already have a basic BDSM kink list that you found when you first began your journey. However, you need to have one that is reputable and comprehensible. A good kink checklist will also help you […]
How to Write a BDSM Contract + Free Printable Template
It’s always a good idea to have a BDSM contract before you begin any new Dom/sub relationship. It’s always a good idea to have a BDSM contract before you begin any new Dom/sub relationship. It spells out in detail what is expected of each person. It also keeps things safe and consensual. Even if you […]
New BDSM Trends and Predictions for 2024 (Ep. 13)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE We’ve seen a lot of changes and emerging trends in the world of kink, and I’m here to give you a sneak peek into what’s in store for the year ahead. So, grab your favorite paddle, and let’s dive into the state of BDSM and […]
Check Off Your 2023 Dom Sub Living Kinky Bingo Card
You did a lot of kinky things this year. What did you check off your 2023 BDSM bucket list? There’s no way to sugarcoat it. From COVID still raging, abortion rights being taken away, and now a possible recession, 2023 was a hard year. But through all the hardships, we still managed to get our […]
Meet my Dom! Advice and Tips for Dominants (Ep. 7)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I am excited to introduce my partner to you: Jay! Jay has been an integral part of my journey as a submissive, and today we will dive deep into our Dom/sub dynamic, and explore the challenges, triumphs, and growth we have experienced together as a […]
How to Create Meaningful Traditions for Your D/s Dynamic (Ep. 6)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE As you approach the holiday season, it’s natural to shift your focus toward family gatherings, festive decorations, and gift exchanges. However, it’s important for you not to forget about your BDSM dynamic and the unique bond you share with your partner. So, let’s explore some […]
Age Play Unleashed: DDlg Rules, Rewards and Punishments for Littles
Daddy Dom/little girl (DDlg) relationships are a subculture of BDSM. They often involve age play, where one partner takes on the role of a “little” and the other that of a caregiver. Within this dynamic, there is usually a set of DDlg rules for littles, chores, and even DDlg punishments and rewards. In this article, […]
Ultimate Guide to Common BDSM Terms
When I first started exploring BDSM, I quickly realized that beyond the dynamics and experiences, there was an entire BDSM language that felt like a secret code. From countless acronyms to nuanced terms, BDSM terminology can be overwhelming, especially for newbies. I remember feeling a bit lost, like I was in a foreign country without […]
Beducated Review – Plus Coupon Code!
As a Dom/sub couple, my partner and I are always looking for ways to explore our sexuality and improve our intimate relationship. One of the resources we’ve found incredibly helpful in this regard is Beducated. Keep reading for my complete Beducated review, and also get your coupon code for a subscription discount. My Honest Beducated […]
BDSM Submissive Punishments: How to Punish Your Sub Effectively
Most Dominant/submissive relationship usually have varying types of submissive punishments. After all, the “D” in BDSM stands for discipline, and no sub is perfect. Correction (even over text) is needed from time to time when they break the rules. However, many Doms struggle with ideas for knowing how to punish. Also, a sub can feel […]
10 Self-Care Tips Doms and Subs Need
Many in the BDSM community are responding to the current crisis in one of two ways. They either push themselves to try to keep things under control, or they retreat into worry. In either case, self-care gets neglected, and Dom and sub drop can occur. Yet this is exactly when you need self-care activities the most. […]
BDSM Rituals & Why You Need Them
BDSM rituals are an important part of any healthy Dom/sub relationship. They help the Dominant and submissive remember their roles and can be a way to stay centered and focused. But creating powerful and easy Dom/sub rituals (that don’t fizzle out) can be challenging. Read on to discover proven examples of D/s rules and protocols, […]
7 Rules for BDSM Long-Distance Relationships
BDSM long-distance relationships are hard, especially for those that are Dom/sub. It can be difficult to keep the dynamic going when you’re apart, and problems and issues arise. There’s also a lot of bad advice and tips on the internet. But even if you’re apart for just a day, or if circumstances make it so […]
Your Guide to Consensual Non-Consent
One of the most debated but rarely explained topics in the BDSM community is consensual non-consent, or CNC. The real definition of this type of D/s relationship is one of deep trust, not abuse. And even though the sex fantasy of rape play is pretty common, the CNC kink is still a taboo topic. What […]
10 BDSM Aftercare Tips & Ideas for Dom/sub Couples
During a BDSM scene or other kink activities, the Dominant and submissive can experience a huge endorphin rush, which can be a shock for both when the scene ends. BDSM aftercare is needed after the scene is over because it’s a way for those in a D/s (Dom/sub) relationship to calm back down. If your […]
8 BDSM Bondage Ideas & Tips for Beginners
Bondage is one of the fundamental aspects of BDSM. It may seem like just a sex kink, but it’s more than rope ties, tying someone up, or being tied. Real physical and emotional gratification comes from bondage. How can you get started and enjoy it safely, even if you’re a beginner? Here are 8 beginner-friendly […]
Submissive’s Journal: The Ultimate Guide to Submissive Journal Prompts & Ideas
In beginning my BDSM journey as a sub, I thought keeping a submissive’s journal was very vanilla. “Shouldn’t I just tell my Dom my feelings and ideas?” I didn’t think a submissive journal would be useful, but my Dominant wanted me to, so I obeyed. Here’s what I’ve learned, plus some submissive journal prompts and […]