(Free Printable Checklist!) When you’re engaging in the kink lifestyle, it’s important to have a BDSM checklist. You probably already have a basic BDSM kink list that you found when you first began your journey. However, you need to have one that is reputable and comprehensible. A good kink checklist will also help you discover […]
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A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM and Dom/sub
Many people who are curious about kink want to know the quickest way to get started. When you’re just a BDSM beginner, it can be really frustrating to try and figure out what a Dominant or submissive is all about. If you don’t get started the right way, you’re going to waste a lot of […]
Check Off Your 2022 Dom Sub Living Kinky Bingo Card
You did a lot of kinky things this year. What did you check off your 2022 BDSM bucket list? There’s no way to sugarcoat it. From COVID still raging, abortion rights being taken away, and now a possible recession, 2022 was a hard year. But through all the hardships, we still managed to get our […]
How to Punish a Sub Effectively
Most Dominant/submissive relationship usually have punishments. After all, the “D” in BDSM stands for discipline, and no sub is perfect. Correction (even over text) is needed from time to time when they break the rules. However, many Doms struggle with ideas for knowing how to punish. Also, a sub can feel neglected when it isn’t […]
10 Self-Care Tips Doms and Subs Need
Many in the BDSM community are responding to the current crisis in one of two ways. They either push themselves to try to keep things under control, or they retreat into worry. In either case, self-care gets neglected, and Dom and sub drop can occur. Yet this is exactly when you need self-care activities the most. […]
Topping from the Bottom: 3 Examples to Avoid
What does “Topping from the Bottom” really mean? Ever since the book 50 Shades of Grey made the expression popular, the meaning and actual definition have become cloudy. In BDSM, the definition of “Topping from the Bottom” (or TFTB) is when a submissive starts to become more of the dominant in the relationship. I’m going […]
Fake Dom vs Real Dom: 9 Warning Signs
In creating Dom Sub Living I’ve met many great Dominants, but I’ve also come across a lot of fakes. I have also heard from many submissives about their scary experiences with bad doms. I eventually realized that a “Fake dom vs Real Dom” article was necessary. Keep reading to learn the warning signs, red flags, […]
BDSM Rituals and Why You Need Them
Rituals are an important part of any healthy BDSM relationship. They help the Dominant and submissive remember their roles, and can be a way to stay centered and focused. But creating powerful and easy Dom/sub rituals (that don’t fizzle out) can be challenging. Read on to discover proven examples of D/s rules and protocols, and […]
