What does “Topping from the Bottom” really mean? Ever since the book 50 Shades of Grey made the expression popular, the meaning and actual definition have become cloudy. In BDSM, the definition of “Topping from the Bottom” (or TFTB) is when a submissive starts to become more of the dominant in the relationship. I’m going […]
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A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM and Dom/sub
Many people who are curious about kink want to know the quickest way to get started. When you’re just a BDSM beginner, it can be really frustrating to try and figure out what a Dominant or submissive is all about. If you don’t get started the right way, you’re going to waste a lot of […]
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Fake Dom vs Real Dom: 9 Warning Signs
In creating Dom Sub Living I’ve met so many great Dominants, but I’ve also come across a lot of fakes. I have also heard from far too many submissives about their scary experiences with bad doms. I try to keep this blog positive, but I eventually realized that a “Fake dom vs Real Dom” article […]
BDSM Rituals and Why You Need Them
Rituals are an important part of any healthy BDSM relationship. They help the Dominant and submissive remember their roles, and can be a way to stay centered and focused. But creating powerful and easy Dom/sub rituals (that don’t fizzle out) can be challenging. Read on to discover proven examples of D/s rules and protocols, and […]
Everything You Need to Know About Being a Switch
When most people think of a BDSM relationship, they usually only think of the Dominant and submissive roles (typically a guy and a girl). The truth is, there are many shades of gray on the kink spectrum. Many people (even vanilla ones) enjoy being what’s called a “switch,” and switching from Dom or sub can […]
7 Rules for a Long-Distance Relationship- FREE WORKSHEET
Long-Distance relationships are hard, but especially for those that are Dom/sub. It can be difficult to keep the dynamic going when you’re apart and problems and issues arise. There’s also a lot of bad advice and tips on the internet. But even if you’re apart for just a day, or if circumstances make it so […]
Exactly How to Master Sub Maintenance
When a Dominant or submissive starts a BDSM relationship, they’re usually very excited and motivated. But after some time passes the realities of life begin to set in. What can keep a sub eager to serve and also prevent a Dom from neglecting their partner? Sub maintenance! When you hear that term you may think […]
