My Unfiltered Story About Why I Started This Podcast (Ep. 1)


Hey there, fellow kinksters! It’s Alesandra here, your kinky guide, and I’m thrilled to welcome you to the world of Dom Sub Living. In this blog post, I want to delve deeper into our very first podcast episode and give you an exclusive glimpse into what you can expect from this exciting journey we’re embarking on together.


  • Discover the long-awaited launch of the Dom Sub Living podcast.
  • Gain insight into the personal challenges and commitments that I overcame.
  • Understand the purpose of the show and who it is intended for.
  • Explore how the unique dynamics of the San Francisco Bay Area kink scene has shaped my understanding of BDSM.
  • Learn about my experience in the BDSM lifestyle and my journey as a kink educator and relationship coach.

Breaking Free from the Vanilla Rut

At Dom Sub Living, our mission is to help you break free from the vanilla rut that society often places upon us. We believe that embracing BDSM as a lifestyle is not just limited to intimate moments in the bedroom—it’s about discovering and embracing your true authentic self..

Whether you identify as a Dominant, submissive, or enjoy being a switch, we’re here to empower you to unlock your full potential and make BDSM an integral part of your life.

Creating a Safe Haven

Our podcast aims to create a sense of belonging for all who listen. I want you to feel like you have a kinky friend in me, a safe space where you can openly explore your desires, concerns, and experiences. Together, we can navigate the complexities of BDSM, and I am committed to helping you thrive in your chosen role.

The Journey to Podcasting

Episode 1 of Dom Sub Living has been a long time coming. I must admit, there were many obstacles in my path that delayed its creation. As a human being, I face real-life challenges like health issues, family matters, and the responsibilities that come with being a parent to two young children.

Additionally, as a dedicated 24/7 submissive, my Dominant keeps me occupied with rituals, punishments, and constant communication. However, my burning desire to connect with you on a more personal level eventually led me to take the leap into podcasting.

Personalizing the Kink Experience

While our blog has provided a platform for informative articles, I was yearning to make a more personal connection with our community. The podcast allows me to share thoughts, experiences, and advice in a conversational manner that fosters a deeper connection. I want to get to know you better and ensure you feel supported and understood!

An Introduction to me, Alesandra

For those who don’t know me yet, I’m Alesandra Madison—an enthusiastic kinkster with over a decade of experience in the BDSM lifestyle. I am proudly married to my Dominant partner, and together we have built a 24/7 D/s relationship. My submissive nature extends beyond traditional roles. It encompasses elements of being a little girl in a DDlg dynamic, as well as exploring the Master/slave dynamic.

Moreover, as a parent and the founder of Dom Sub Living, I understand the juggling act that comes with managing various responsibilities while navigating the world of kink.

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San Francisco to Los Angeles: A Shift in Perspectives

Having grown up in San Francisco, the heart of alternative lifestyles, I was fortunate to be exposed to diverse communities and mindsets from a young age. The move to Los Angeles last year brought new perspectives, and I look forward to sharing my experiences. I’ll also be comparing the two vibrant scenes with you in the future.

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A Journey of Sharing and Collaboration

Dom Sub Living has blossomed into more than just a blog. With over 100,000 monthly visitors and thousands of individuals participating in our online courses and mentoring programs, it’s clear that our community is thriving.

Furthermore, I have had the privilege of collaborating with numerous BDSM experts, hosting virtual events, and fostering meaningful connections. Together, we aim to provide a platform for dialogue, growth, and education within the BDSM sphere.

What’s to Come

As we embark on this exciting journey together, I invite you to become an active participant in the Dom Sub Living community. Let us support each other in embracing the beauty and liberation that BDSM offers. Remember to subscribe to our podcast and stay tuned for upcoming episodes. We’ll explore various aspects of the lifestyle and provide valuable insights.

Thank you for joining me today! Your presence makes this episode and our future endeavors truly special. And don’t forget, your kinky friend, Alesandra, is here for you every step of the way. Until next time, embrace your desires, own your power, and let’s make BDSM a lifestyle like no other.

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