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4 Ways to Build Trust in a Dom/sub Relationship (Ep. 42)

4 Ways to Build Trust in a Dom/sub Relationship

We’re delving into the core of trust in D/s relationships, sharing actionable tips on building and maintaining trust to create a deeper bond…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

From BDSM Newbie to Expert: Navigating the Stages of Your D/s Journey (Ep. 41)

From BDSM Newbie to Expert: Navigating the Stages of Your D/s Journey

Curious about BDSM but unsure where to start? Or ready to advance your skills? We’re guiding you through the stages from newbie to expert and…

Tagged With: BDSM, beginners, expert, Ideas, newbie, Relationships

How to Balance a 24/7 BDSM Dynamic with Vanilla Life (Ep. 40)

How to Balance a 24/7 BDSM Dynamic with Vanilla Life

Balancing a 24/7 BDSM dynamic with everyday responsibilities can be overwhelming. Discover practical tips for harmony between your vanilla life and BDSM desires…

Tagged With: 24/7, BDSM, Beginner, Relationships

Escaping the Pressure to Be a Perfect Dom or Sub (Ep. 39)

Perfectionism in BDSM as a Dom or Sub

Feeling overwhelmed by perfectionism in your BDSM journey? We’re sharing tips on embracing imperfection and announcing a free 4-day boot camp to help…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Navigating BDSM with a Disability: Empowering Your Journey (Ep. 38)

We’re exploring how inclusivity enriches the BDSM community, with practical tips on adapting to disabilities and embracing your journey…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Disability, Ideas

BDSM Degradation & Humiliation Kink: Ideas & Tips (Ep. 37)

BDSM Degradation & Humiliation Kink: Ideas & Tips

Navigating degradation and humiliation in BDSM can be thrilling yet challenging. Learn to explore safely with tips, ideas, and expert advice in…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Degradation, Kink, Relationships

Kink and Kids: DOs and DON’Ts for D/s Parents (Ep. 36)

Kink and Kids: DOs and DON'Ts for D/s Parents

Balancing parental duties with BDSM can be challenging. Learn tips on privacy, consent, and maintaining your dynamic while raising kids. Find out more about…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Parenting, Relationships

BDSM Q&A: Fresh Ideas, Avoiding Burnout, Navigating DMs (Ep. 35)

BDSM Q&A: Fresh Ideas, Avoiding Burnout, Navigating DMs

Let’s have a deep dive into the nuanced aspects of maintaining a vibrant and healthy Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship! This recent podcast episode was all about your questions and my responses.

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Relationships

SSC vs. RACK vs. PRICK: Which BDSM Safety Protocol Fits You? (Ep. 33)

SSC vs. RACK vs. PRICK: Which Safety Protocol Fits You?

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that often stirs up quite a bit of conversation within the BDSM community: the dynamics of communication and consent, and the use of different acronyms like SSC, RACK, PRICK, and others. Let’s explore these kink terms, my personal preferences, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Rules, Safety

BDSM in your 40s, 50s, and Beyond! (Ep. 32)

BDSM in your 40s, 50s, and Beyond!

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving into a topic close to my heart—embracing BDSM as a lifestyle in your 40s, 50s, and even later. Many people think of BDSM as a young person’s game, but let me tell you, that’s far from the truth. Age is not only a number […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Older, Relationships

Age Gaps in BDSM Relationships (Ep. 31)

BDSM in your 40s, 50s, and Beyond!

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today, we’re tackling a topic I’ve shied away from due to its inherent controversy and my personal biases: age gap relationships within the BDSM community. Navigating Age Gaps: A Personal and Cultural Perspective Let’s start with a little backstory. My interest in age-gap relationships isn’t just […]

Tagged With: age gap, BDSM, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

BDSM’s Role in My Mental Health Journey (Ep. 30)

BDSM's Role in My Mental Health Journey

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re delving into the intricate ties between mental health and BDSM as I share a very personal narrative that some may find unexpected—how BDSM has emerged as a beacon of hope in my journey with mental health. The Silent Battle: Living with Mental Illness I’ve always […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, mental health, Relationships

Exploring the Depths of BDSM with Just Press Foreplay (Ep. 29)

Exploring the Depths of BDSM with Just Press Foreplay

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE I sat down with Suzii from Just Press Foreplay to peel back the layers of a Dominant-submissive (D/s) dynamic. We can’t stress enough the importance of communication and regular check-ins. It’s about understanding each other’s depths—one question, one journal entry at a time. This foundational practice […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

What Is Shibari? A Deep Dive into Japanese Rope Bondage

What Is Shibari? A Deep Dive into Japanese Rope Bondage

Unraveling the threads of different kink practices, we stumble upon the art form of Japanese rope bondage, raising the question: What is Shibari BDSM? In this article, we’ll untangle the complexities of Japanese bondage, highlighting the essential aspects of safety, consent, and the intimate connection between the Rigger and the model. Get ready to learn […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Bondage, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Rope

4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive (Ep. 28)

4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE I’m thrilled to share this episode on how to be a better submissive, which is packed with insights to help you blossom in your BDSM journey. So, let’s dive into the art of becoming an even better sub! Improving Your Role as a Submissive: Free Cheat […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Ideas, Submissive

Why You Need a BDSM Mentor (Ep. 27)

Why You Need a BDSM Mentor

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Navigating the world of BDSM can be both exhilarating and daunting, and you’re not alone if you’ve ever felt stuck or overwhelmed. Today, we’re diving deep into why mentorship can be a beacon of light on your kinky path, and how to discern a genuine mentor […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Coaching, Learning, Mentor, Relationships

Connecting with the Kink Community (Ep. 26)

Connecting with the Kink Community

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving deep into the heart of community within our diverse scene—discussing everything from munches to dungeons and everything in between. So, let’s unravel some of those discussions here in a way that I hope will empower you to step out and connect with your fellow […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, community, Ideas

Foolproof BDSM Advice (Ep. 25)

Foolproof BDSM Advice

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today we’re delving deep into a subject that is both personal and pivotal for anyone who is exploring the realms of BDSM. As someone who has navigated the complexities of power dynamics, I’ve heard my fair share of advice – some good, and some outright dangerous. […]

Tagged With: Advice, BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Ideas

What No One Tells You About Dom/Sub Relationships (Ep. 24)

What No One Tells You About Dom/Sub Relationships

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving deep into the less-discussed topics of BDSM relationships—a world far beyond the staged perfection of a dungeon scene. As someone who has transitioned from a vanilla to a BDSM relationship, I have firsthand experience with the raw complexities this lifestyle entails. So, let’s cut […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Surprising Signs You Might Be a Switch (Ep. 23)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today I am diving into the thrilling world of being a switch in the BDSM community. In this blog post, we’ll explore the surprising signs that suggest you might be a switch, and I’ll share some insightful experiences and perspectives on the fluidity of power, desire, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Submissive, Switch

4 Ways to Be a Better Dominant (Ep. 22)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today, I’ll be unraveling the secrets to becoming a great Dominant. Whether you’re just beginning your journey into BDSM or you’re a seasoned practitioner, these insights will revolutionize your approach and deepen the dynamic with your submissive. 1. Cultivating Effective Communication Effective communication lays the foundation […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Communication, Dominant, Education, Relationships

The Truth about BDSM Tradwives (Ep. 21)

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LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Today, I want to dive deep into the differences and similarities between the BDSM and Tradwife dynamics. As a submissive and long-time advocate for informed and consensual relationship dynamics, I find it essential to understand and respect various lifestyle choices, not just those under the […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Relationships, Submissive

Types of Bondage: A Journey into the Realm of Restraint

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Embarking on a journey into the realm of BDSM can be thrilling, exhilarating and, for some, a little intimidating. One essential aspect that often piques fascination is all the different types of bondage. We’ll explore the vast variations of bondage types. From Shibari bondage, predicament bondage, to even torture bondage, each method serves a unique […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Bondage, Ideas, Kink

Helping Your Partner Embrace the BDSM Lifestyle (Ep. 18)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I’m thrilled to dive into a topic that’s essential for the well-being of any BDSM relationship – helping your partner become more interested and comfortable in the lifestyle. Whether you’re a Dominant or a submissive, navigating this journey with your significant other should be about […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Partner, Relationships

Finding Kinky Love: How to Find a D/s Partner (Ep. 17)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s on many of your minds – finding a legitimate Dom or sub partner. Whether you’re single, navigating the challenges of the BDSM community, or seeking a third partner to enhance your dynamic, I’ve got you covered. Let’s explore […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Partner, Relationships

What is a Rope Bunny? Unraveling this Kinky Rope Bondage Role

What is a rope bunny

When someone starts exploring the world of BDSM, they often come across vast terminology. One of the questions I get asked a lot is, What is a rope bunny? In this article we’ll dive into this rewarding role, and I’ll even share my favorite bondage tie and top rope bondage technique tips to help you […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Bondage, Definition, Kink, Submissive

The Ultimate BDSM Checklist for Kinks, Limits & More

(Free Printable Kink Checklist!) When you’re engaging in the kink lifestyle, it’s important to have a BDSM checklist. You probably already have a basic BDSM kink list that you found when you first began your journey. However, it’s essential to have one that is reputable and comprehensible. A good kink checklist will also help you […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Relationships, Submissive

Overcoming Dom/sub Mindset Struggles with Leann Herron (Ep. 16)

Overcoming Dom/sub Mindset Struggles with Leann Herron

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode, I take us back to the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit, where I had the pleasure of interviewing the amazing Leann Herron from Finding Resilience with Leann. Leann is not your average guest; she’s a sought-after educator, a certified health and life coach, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Mindset, Rules, Submissive

Our BIGGEST Announcement Yet (Ep. 15)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Hey there, kinky friends! I am ecstatic to share some groundbreaking news with you—something that our team at Dom Sub Living has been tirelessly working on behind the scenes. This is a game-changer, a revolutionary opportunity that will redefine the way BDSM education happens. Are […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Courses, Education

5 Ways to Master Long-Distance D/s Relationships (Ep. 14)

5 Ways to Master Long-Distance D/s Relationships

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode, I share my experience navigating a long-distance D/s dynamic with my Dom while he commutes from Southern California to the San Francisco Bay Area. It hasn’t been without its challenges, but we’ve managed to revamp our dynamic and make things better than […]

Tagged With: BDSM, LDR, Long-Distance Relationships, Relationships

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