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Check Off Your Dom Sub Living Kinky Bingo Card

You did a lot of kinky things this year. What did you check off your BDSM bucket list? There’s no way to sugarcoat it. From a messy political election, the spectacle of the Olympics, and whispers of a possible bird flu pandemic, 2024 has been a rollercoaster of a year. But through all the hardships, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Ideas, Kink, Submissive

How to Handle Dom/sub Conflict Without Breaking the Dynamic (Ep. 63)

Conflict in Dom/sub dynamics can undermine relationships if not handled carefully. Learn how to maintain balance and restore roles during disputes…

Tagged With: BDSM, Conflict, Dominant, Relationships, Rules, Submissive

Q&A With a 24/7 Submissive – Ask Me Anything! (Ep. 62)

Q&A With a 24/7 Submissive - Ask Me Anything!

Understanding D/s dynamics, maintaining trust, and proactive submission can be challenging yet rewarding! Explore key insights and tips to thrive in your dynamic…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Disability, Ideas, Q&A, Relationships

Impact Play 101: 5 Beginner-Friendly Ideas to Try Now (Ep. 61)

Impact Play 101: 5 Beginner-Friendly Ideas to Try Now

Curious about Impact Play but not sure where to begin? Discover 5 simple, beginner-friendly ideas to make your experience safe, fun, and fulfilling with these tips and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Ideas, Impact Play

Exploring BDSM Roles: Which One Is Right for You? (Ep. 60)

Exploring BDSM Roles: Which One Is Right for You?

Discover your BDSM identity with Dom Sub Living Podcast! Explore various roles like dominant, submissive, and switch to find what resonates with you…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Submissive

Service-Oriented BDSM: Elevate Your Dom/sub Dynamic (Ep. 59)

Service-Oriented BDSM: Elevate Your Dom/sub Dynamic

Explore how service-oriented BDSM can deepen your dynamic. Discover intentional acts of service that enhance connection and appreciation in your relationship…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Dominant, Ideas, Relationships, Submissive

10 Dom/sub Ideas for Public Spaces – No One Will Notice! (Ep. 58)

10 Dom/sub Ideas for Public Spaces – No One Will Notice!

Discover 10 subtle ways to maintain your Dom sub dynamic in public without drawing unwanted attention. Learn how to integrate these practices seamlessly and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Ideas, Kink, Public, Relationships

Dom Drop 101: Support Strategies Every Sub Should Know (Ep. 57)

Dom Drop 101: Support Strategies Every Sub Should Know

Explore the complexities of Dom drop and learn how to offer support, reassurance, and aftercare for dominants. Navigate challenges and rebuild your dynamic by…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dom Drop, Dominant, Ideas

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM (Ep. 56)

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM

Understanding the difference between punishment and play in BDSM can prevent misunderstandings and build trust. Learn how to navigate these dynamics and…

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Frightening Fantasies: Exploring Darker Desires in BDSM (Ep. 55)

Frightening Fantasies: Exploring Darker Desires in BDSM

Explore intense, dark fantasies in a safe, consensual way! Learn how to communicate, set boundaries, and embrace your desires at Dom Sub Living Podcast…

Tagged With: BDSM, CNC, Fantasies, Kink, Relationships

Why Kink and Politics Can’t Be Separated and What It Means for You (Ep. 54)

Why Kink and Politics Can’t Be Separated and What It Means for You

Discover how politics and kink intersect, affecting safe spaces and inclusivity. Explore the impact of legalities, censorship, and advocacy in today’s episode…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Kink, politics

Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle (Ep. 53)

Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle

Discover the secrets to effective submissive training! Learn how to personalize your dynamic and ensure growth in your BDSM relationship…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Submissive

How to Build BDSM Protocols to Deepen Your D/s Relationship (Ep. 52)

Discover how simple protocols can enrich your Dom/sub dynamic through structure and connection. Learn why starting small and staying consistent matters…

Tagged With: BDSM, Examples, Ideas, Protocol, Rituals, Rules

Is BDSM Compatible with Christianity? The Surprising Truth (Ep. 51)

Is BDSM Compatible with Christianity? The Surprising Truth

Reconciling BDSM with Christianity can be tough, but understanding scripture can help! Dive into the Dom Sub Living Podcast to explore faith and desires…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Kink, Relationships, Religion

BDSM Scene Structure 101: Step-by-Step from Start to Finish (Ep. 50)

BDSM Scene Structure 101: Step-by-Step from Start to Finish

Crafting the perfect BDSM scene involves pleasure, restraint, pain, and constant communication. Key elements include mood setting, improvisation, and aftercare…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Ideas, Scenes

Feeling Lost in Kink? Here’s How to Find Your Unique BDSM Path (Ep. 49)

Feeling Lost in Kink? Here’s How to Find Your Unique BDSM Path

Feeling lost in your kink journey? Build confidence, find community, and explore safely with tips from the Dom Sub Living Podcast. Discover how to find your unique path…

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Vetting a Submissive? Avoid These 5 Red Flags Before You Commit (Ep. 48)

Vetting a Submissive? Avoid These 5 Red Flags Before You Commit

When vetting a sub, look out for inconsistency, boundary issues, and unwillingness to learn. A healthy D/s dynamic needs respect, trust, and communication…

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Topping from the Bottom? Stop Sabotaging Your D/s Dynamic Now! (Ep. 47)

Topping from the Bottom? Stop Sabotaging Your D/s Dynamic Now!

Is your DS dynamic secretly being sabotaged by topping from the bottom? Learn how to regain balance in your relationship and stop it before it wrecks everything…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

How to Vet a Dominant: Key Questions and Red Flags to Look For (Ep. 46)

How to Vet a Dominant: Key Questions and Red Flags to Look For

Vetting a Dominant is crucial for your safety and well-being in BDSM. Discover the key questions to ask, red flags to watch for, and practical tips to ensure…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Safety, Submissive, Vetting

Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge! (Ep. 45)

Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge!

Bratting can add playful energy to your BDSM dynamic, but how do you balance fun and respect? Learn effective ways to turn bratting into a positive force…

Tagged With: BDSM, brat, Definition, Dominant, Ideas, Relationships, Submissive, Tips

Maintenance Spankings: 5 Things You Need to Know (Ep. 44)

Maintenance Spankings: 5 Things You Need to Know

Maintenance spankings reconnect and prevent bratty behavior, maintaining your D/s dynamic. But how do they differ from punishment spankings, and what’s their real purpose…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Maintenance, Spankings, Submissive

The BDSM Olympics: Top 10 Kinky Skills Revealed (Ep. 43)

The BDSM Olympics: Top 10 Kinky Skills Revealed

Master the art of BDSM with our kink Olympic decathlon! Dive into rope bondage, impact play, sensory deprivation, and more to elevate your scenes and…

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4 Ways to Build Trust in a Dom/sub Relationship (Ep. 42)

4 Ways to Build Trust in a Dom/sub Relationship

We’re delving into the core of trust in D/s relationships, sharing actionable tips on building and maintaining trust to create a deeper bond…

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From BDSM Newbie to Expert: Navigating the Stages of Your D/s Journey (Ep. 41)

From BDSM Newbie to Expert: Navigating the Stages of Your D/s Journey

Curious about BDSM but unsure where to start? Or ready to advance your skills? We’re guiding you through the stages from newbie to expert and…

Tagged With: BDSM, beginners, expert, Ideas, newbie, Relationships

How to Balance a 24/7 BDSM Dynamic with Vanilla Life (Ep. 40)

How to Balance a 24/7 BDSM Dynamic with Vanilla Life

Balancing a 24/7 BDSM dynamic with everyday responsibilities can be overwhelming. Discover practical tips for harmony between your vanilla life and BDSM desires…

Tagged With: 24/7, BDSM, Beginner, Relationships

Perfectionism in BDSM as a Dom or Sub (Ep. 39)

Perfectionism in BDSM as a Dom or Sub

Feeling overwhelmed by perfectionism in your BDSM journey? We’re sharing tips on embracing imperfection and announcing a free 4-day boot camp to help…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Navigating BDSM with a Disability: Empowering Your Journey (Ep. 38)

We’re exploring how inclusivity enriches the BDSM community, with practical tips on adapting to disabilities and embracing your journey…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Disability, Ideas

BDSM Degradation & Humiliation Kink: Ideas & Tips (Ep. 37)

BDSM Degradation & Humiliation Kink: Ideas & Tips

Navigating degradation and humiliation in BDSM can be thrilling yet challenging. Learn to explore safely with tips, ideas, and expert advice in…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Degradation, Kink, Relationships

Kink and Kids: DOs and DON’Ts for D/s Parents (Ep. 36)

Kink and Kids: DOs and DON'Ts for D/s Parents

Balancing parental duties with BDSM can be challenging. Learn tips on privacy, consent, and maintaining your dynamic while raising kids. Find out more about…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Parenting, Relationships

BDSM Q&A: Fresh Ideas, Avoiding Burnout, Navigating DMs (Ep. 35)

BDSM Q&A: Fresh Ideas, Avoiding Burnout, Navigating DMs

Let’s have a deep dive into the nuanced aspects of maintaining a vibrant and healthy Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship! This recent podcast episode was all about your questions and my responses.

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Relationships

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