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Age Gaps in BDSM Relationships (Ep. 31)

BDSM in your 40s, 50s, and Beyond!

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today, we’re tackling a topic I’ve shied away from due to its inherent controversy and my personal biases: age gap relationships within the BDSM community. Navigating Age Gaps: A Personal and Cultural Perspective Let’s start with a little backstory. My interest in age-gap relationships isn’t just […]

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BDSM’s Role in My Mental Health Journey (Ep. 30)

BDSM's Role in My Mental Health Journey

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re delving into the intricate ties between mental health and BDSM as I share a very personal narrative that some may find unexpected—how BDSM has emerged as a beacon of hope in my journey with mental health. The Silent Battle: Living with Mental Illness I’ve always […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, mental health, Relationships

Exploring the Depths of BDSM with Just Press Foreplay (Ep. 29)

Exploring the Depths of BDSM with Just Press Foreplay

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE I sat down with Suzii from Just Press Foreplay to peel back the layers of a Dominant-submissive (D/s) dynamic. We can’t stress enough the importance of communication and regular check-ins. It’s about understanding each other’s depths—one question, one journal entry at a time. This foundational practice […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

What Is Shibari? A Deep Dive into Japanese Rope Bondage

What Is Shibari? A Deep Dive into Japanese Rope Bondage

Unraveling the threads of different kink practices, we stumble upon the art form of Japanese rope bondage, raising the question: What is Shibari BDSM? In this article, we’ll untangle the complexities of Japanese bondage, highlighting the essential aspects of safety, consent, and the intimate connection between the Rigger and the model. Get ready to learn […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Bondage, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Rope

4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive (Ep. 28)

4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE I’m thrilled to share this episode on how to be a better submissive, which is packed with insights to help you blossom in your BDSM journey. So, let’s dive into the art of becoming an even better sub! Improving Your Role as a Submissive: Free Cheat […]

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Why You Need a BDSM Mentor (Ep. 27)

Why You Need a BDSM Mentor

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Navigating the world of BDSM can be both exhilarating and daunting, and you’re not alone if you’ve ever felt stuck or overwhelmed. Today, we’re diving deep into why mentorship can be a beacon of light on your kinky path, and how to discern a genuine mentor […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Coaching, Learning, Mentor, Relationships

Connecting with the Kink Community (Ep. 26)

Connecting with the Kink Community

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving deep into the heart of community within our diverse scene—discussing everything from munches to dungeons and everything in between. So, let’s unravel some of those discussions here in a way that I hope will empower you to step out and connect with your fellow […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, community, Ideas

Foolproof BDSM Advice (Ep. 25)

Foolproof BDSM Advice

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today we’re delving deep into a subject that is both personal and pivotal for anyone who is exploring the realms of BDSM. As someone who has navigated the complexities of power dynamics, I’ve heard my fair share of advice – some good, and some outright dangerous. […]

Tagged With: Advice, BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Ideas

What No One Tells You About Dom/Sub Relationships (Ep. 24)

What No One Tells You About Dom/Sub Relationships

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving deep into the less-discussed topics of BDSM relationships—a world far beyond the staged perfection of a dungeon scene. As someone who has transitioned from a vanilla to a BDSM relationship, I have firsthand experience with the raw complexities this lifestyle entails. So, let’s cut […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Surprising Signs You Might Be a Switch (Ep. 23)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today I am diving into the thrilling world of being a switch in the BDSM community. In this blog post, we’ll explore the surprising signs that suggest you might be a switch, and I’ll share some insightful experiences and perspectives on the fluidity of power, desire, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Submissive, Switch

4 Ways to Be a Better Dominant (Ep. 22)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today, I’ll be unraveling the secrets to becoming a great Dominant. Whether you’re just beginning your journey into BDSM or you’re a seasoned practitioner, these insights will revolutionize your approach and deepen the dynamic with your submissive. 1. Cultivating Effective Communication Effective communication lays the foundation […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Communication, Dominant, Education, Relationships

The Truth about BDSM Tradwives (Ep. 21)

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LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Today, I want to dive deep into the differences and similarities between the BDSM and Tradwife dynamics. As a submissive and long-time advocate for informed and consensual relationship dynamics, I find it essential to understand and respect various lifestyle choices, not just those under the […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Relationships, Submissive

Types of Bondage: A Journey into the Realm of Restraint

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Embarking on a journey into the realm of BDSM can be thrilling, exhilarating and, for some, a little intimidating. One essential aspect that often piques fascination is all the different types of bondage. We’ll explore the vast variations of bondage types. From Shibari bondage, predicament bondage, to even torture bondage, each method serves a unique […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Bondage, Ideas, Kink

Helping Your Partner Embrace the BDSM Lifestyle (Ep. 18)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I’m thrilled to dive into a topic that’s essential for the well-being of any BDSM relationship – helping your partner become more interested and comfortable in the lifestyle. Whether you’re a Dominant or a submissive, navigating this journey with your significant other should be about […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Partner, Relationships

Finding Kinky Love: How to Find a D/s Partner (Ep. 17)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s on many of your minds – finding a legitimate Dom or sub partner. Whether you’re single, navigating the challenges of the BDSM community, or seeking a third partner to enhance your dynamic, I’ve got you covered. Let’s explore […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Partner, Relationships

What is a Rope Bunny? Unraveling this Kinky Rope Bondage Role

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When someone starts exploring the world of BDSM, they often come across vast terminology. One of the questions I get asked a lot is, What is a rope bunny? In this article we’ll dive into this rewarding role, and I’ll even share my favorite bondage tie and top rope bondage technique tips to help you […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Bondage, Definition, Kink, Submissive

The Ultimate BDSM Checklist for Kinks, Limits & More

(Free Printable Kink Checklist!) When you’re engaging in the kink lifestyle, it’s important to have a BDSM checklist. You probably already have a basic BDSM kink list that you found when you first began your journey. However, it’s essential to have one that is reputable and comprehensible. A good kink checklist will also help you […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Relationships, Submissive

Overcoming Dom/sub Mindset Struggles with Leann Herron (Ep. 16)

Overcoming Dom/sub Mindset Struggles with Leann Herron

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode, I take us back to the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit, where I had the pleasure of interviewing the amazing Leann Herron from Finding Resilience with Leann. Leann is not your average guest; she’s a sought-after educator, a certified health and life coach, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Mindset, Rules, Submissive

Our BIGGEST Announcement Yet (Ep. 15)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Hey there, kinky friends! I am ecstatic to share some groundbreaking news with you—something that our team at Dom Sub Living has been tirelessly working on behind the scenes. This is a game-changer, a revolutionary opportunity that will redefine the way BDSM education happens. Are […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Courses, Education

5 Ways to Master Long-Distance D/s Relationships (Ep. 14)

5 Ways to Master Long-Distance D/s Relationships

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode, I share my experience navigating a long-distance D/s dynamic with my Dom while he commutes from Southern California to the San Francisco Bay Area. It hasn’t been without its challenges, but we’ve managed to revamp our dynamic and make things better than […]

Tagged With: BDSM, LDR, Long-Distance Relationships, Relationships

New BDSM Trends and Predictions for 2024 (Ep. 13)

New BDSM Trends and Predictions for 2024

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE We’ve seen a lot of changes and emerging trends in the world of kink, and I’m here to give you a sneak peek into what’s in store for the year ahead. So, grab your favorite paddle, and let’s dive into the state of BDSM and […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Ideas, Kink, Trends

What’s Coming in 2024 for the Podcast and Dom Sub Living (Ep. 11)

What's Coming in 2024 for the Podcast and Dom Sub Living

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I can’t wait to share with you some exciting updates and plans for the upcoming year! 2023 has been quite a journey. As we step into 2024, I wanted to take a moment to give you a sneak peek into what’s coming up at Dom […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Kink

5 Kinksters Answer: “What I Wish I Knew Before Getting into BDSM” (Ep. 10)

5 Kinksters Answer: “What I Wish I Knew Before Getting into BDSM”

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I am thrilled to bring you a BDSM roundup, where we delve into the diverse perspectives and experiences within the BDSM community. From seasoned Dominants and submissives sharing their pearls of wisdom to those just beginning their journey, the range of insights and stories we […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Submissive

3 Reasons Why Your D/s Relationship Keeps Failing (Ep. 9)

3 Reasons Why Your Ds Relationship Keeps Failing

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE On this episode, we dive into a topic that’s not often discussed openly in the lifestyle – failing D/s relationships. I know the disappointment, frustration, and self-blame many of you experience when a D/s relationship falters. But remember, you are not alone. Accurate Information for […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

How to Create Meaningful Traditions for Your D/s Dynamic (Ep. 6)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE As you approach the holiday season, it’s natural to shift your focus toward family gatherings, festive decorations, and gift exchanges. However, it’s important for you not to forget about your BDSM dynamic and the unique bond you share with your partner. So, let’s explore some […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Dominant, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Relationships, Rules, Submissive

3 Big Myths About BDSM That Are Holding You Back (Ep. 5)

3 Big Myths About BDSM That Are Holding You Back

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode of my podcast, I share a personal story about the myths and limiting beliefs that held me back in the early stages of my own Dom/sub relationship. Today, I want to delve deeper into these myths and discuss how you can break […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Relationships

Mastering Dominance: An In-Depth Look at the Different Types of Doms

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In the world of BDSM, Dominants play a pivotal role in guiding and leading their submissive partners. But did you know that there are different types of Doms with distinct approaches and styles? Examples can include Primal Dom, Gentle Dom, Part-Time Master, and Kinky Dom (just to name a few). In this article, we’ll explore […]

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Ultimate Guide to Common BDSM Terms

When I first started exploring BDSM, I quickly realized that beyond the dynamics and experiences, there was an entire BDSM language that felt like a secret code. From countless acronyms to nuanced terms, BDSM terminology can be overwhelming, especially for newbies. I remember feeling a bit lost, like I was in a foreign country without […]

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The Importance of BDSM Education

BDSM education

A BDSM relationship is a consensual dynamic that involves elements of power play and sensory experiences. Taking a “How to learn BDSM class” can be a lot of fun and a great way to explore your sexuality, but it’s important to approach this lifestyle seriously and with safety in mind. In this article, we’ll explore […]

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6 Effective Safewords BDSM Couples Need With Examples

Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey, the meaning of “safewords” has become more popular.  But many people, even in the BDSM community, still don’t know how to pick a safe word or use it correctly. BDSM safewords are codes to communicate when a submissive is at their limit or close to it, and I’ll show […]

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