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Beginner

Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like (Ep. 84)

Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like

Not every Dom is harsh or intense—gentle domination leads with care and connection. Discover why soft Doms are on the rise and how to embrace this style…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Ideas

BDSM & Polyamory: Master Multiple Power Dynamics Without Drama (Ep. 81)

BDSM & Polyamory: Master Multiple Power Dynamics Without Drama

Balancing BDSM and polyamory can feel complex, but clear rules can help. Discover Alesandra’s roadmap to juggling DS dynamics without the chaos…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Polyamory, Relationships

Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder? (Ep. 79)

Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder?

Navigating Dom sub dynamics: Who really bears the heavier load? Unveiling the challenges each role faces and the journey to find balance and growth…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Submissive

How to Be a More Confident Dominant (Ep. 78)

How to Be a More Confident Dominant

To master dominance, focus on presence, trust, and leadership, not volume. Harness your style to confidently lead and build trust in your dynamic…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant

50 Game-Changing BDSM Tips in 15 Minutes (Ep. 77)

50 Game-Changing BDSM Tips in 15 Minutes

Unlock the top 50 BDSM tips for connection, exploration, and pleasure. From communication to aftercare, discover how to deepen your experiences…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Tips

3 BDSM Mistakes I Made (That Almost Ruined My Journey!) (Ep. 73)

3 BDSM Mistakes I Made (That Almost Ruined My Journey!)

Discover 3 key BDSM mistakes to avoid, like prioritizing rules over connection and ignoring your needs. Learn how to navigate with confidence and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Examples, Relationships, Rules, Submissive

Why BDSM Turns You On: The Psychology of Kink (Ep. 71)

Why BDSM Turns You On: The Psychology of Kink

Uncover the psychology behind BDSM and what truly excites your brain. From endorphins to taboos, dive into the pleasure and emotional release of kink…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Kink, Psychology

Beducated Review – Plus Coupon Code!

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As a Dom/sub couple, my partner and I are always looking for ways to explore our sexuality and improve our intimate relationship. One of the resources we’ve found incredibly helpful in this regard is Beducated. Keep reading for my complete Beducated review, and also get your coupon code for a subscription discount. My Honest Beducated […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Ideas, Kink, Online, Relationships, Review

Wearing a Collar 24/7 in My D/s Marriage: What It’s Really Like (Ep. 69)

Wearing a Collar 24/7 in My D/s Marriage: What It’s Really Like

Collars in D/s dynamics aren’t just symbols—they represent ownership, commitment, and trust. Discover the depth and meaning behind wearing a collar 24/7 in our latest episode…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Collars, Relationships

How to Write a BDSM Contract + Free Printable BDSM Contract Template

BDSM Contract

Have you considered adding a new layer of structure and reliability to your BDSM dynamic? Well, then you’ve come to the right place! It’s always a good idea to have a BDSM contract before you begin any new Dom/sub relationship. It spells out in detail what is expected of each person. It also keeps things safe […]

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BDSM in Real Life: A Dom/sub Married Couple Shares Their Journey (Ep. 67)

BDSM in Real Life: A Dom/sub Married Couple Shares Their Journey

Harlo and Adira share their journey in balancing BDSM roles with real-life responsibilities, offering tips on communication, mindset, and dealing with challenges…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Married, Relationships, Submissive

5 BDSM Experts Reveal the #1 Thing They Wish They Knew (Ep. 65)

5 BDSM Experts Reveal the #1 Thing They Wish They Knew Before Starting

Discover what every kink expert wishes they knew before starting BDSM! Insightful, heartfelt advice from top educators to help you embrace your journey and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Ideas, Relationships, Rules

BDSM Goals: The Kinkiest Bucket List You’ll Ever See (Ep. 64)

BDSM Goals: The Kinkiest Bucket List You’ll Ever See

Looking to spice up your BDSM journey? Discover new ways to set thrilling, meaningful goals in your dynamic and build deeper connections. Curious how? Let’s dive in…

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Check Off Your Dom Sub Living Kinky Bingo Card

You did a lot of kinky things this year. What did you check off your BDSM bucket list? There’s no way to sugarcoat it. From a messy political election, the spectacle of the Olympics, and whispers of a possible bird flu pandemic, 2024 has been a rollercoaster of a year. But through all the hardships, […]

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Q&A With a 24/7 Submissive – Ask Me Anything! (Ep. 62)

Q&A With a 24/7 Submissive - Ask Me Anything!

Understanding D/s dynamics, maintaining trust, and proactive submission can be challenging yet rewarding! Explore key insights and tips to thrive in your dynamic…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Disability, Ideas, Q&A, Relationships

Impact Play 101: 5 Beginner-Friendly Ideas to Try Now (Ep. 61)

Impact Play 101: 5 Beginner-Friendly Ideas to Try Now

Curious about Impact Play but not sure where to begin? Discover 5 simple, beginner-friendly ideas to make your experience safe, fun, and fulfilling with these tips and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Ideas, Impact Play

Exploring BDSM Roles: Which One Is Right for You? (Ep. 60)

Exploring BDSM Roles: Which One Is Right for You?

Discover your BDSM identity with Dom Sub Living Podcast! Explore various roles like dominant, submissive, and switch to find what resonates with you…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Submissive

Dom Drop 101: Support Strategies Every Sub Should Know (Ep. 57)

Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle

Explore the complexities of Dom drop and learn how to offer support, reassurance, and aftercare for dominants. Navigate challenges and rebuild your dynamic by…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dom Drop, Dominant, Ideas

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM (Ep. 56)

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM

Understanding the difference between punishment and play in BDSM can prevent misunderstandings and build trust. Learn how to navigate these dynamics and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Examples, Ideas, Punishments, Submissive

Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle (Ep. 53)

Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle

Discover the secrets to effective submissive training! Learn how to personalize your dynamic and ensure growth in your BDSM relationship…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Submissive

Is BDSM Compatible with Christianity? The Surprising Truth (Ep. 51)

Is BDSM Compatible with Christianity? The Surprising Truth

Reconciling BDSM with Christianity can be tough, but understanding scripture can help! Dive into the Dom Sub Living Podcast to explore faith and desires…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Kink, Relationships, Religion

BDSM Scene Structure 101: Step-by-Step from Start to Finish (Ep. 50)

BDSM Scene Structure 101: Step-by-Step from Start to Finish

Crafting the perfect BDSM scene involves pleasure, restraint, pain, and constant communication. Key elements include mood setting, improvisation, and aftercare…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Ideas, Scenes

Feeling Lost in Kink? Here’s How to Find Your Unique BDSM Path (Ep. 49)

Feeling Lost in Kink? Here’s How to Find Your Unique BDSM Path

Feeling lost in your kink journey? Build confidence, find community, and explore safely with tips from the Dom Sub Living Podcast. Discover how to find your unique path…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner

Vetting a Submissive? Avoid These 5 Red Flags Before You Commit (Ep. 48)

Vetting a Submissive? Avoid These 5 Red Flags Before You Commit

When vetting a sub, look out for inconsistency, boundary issues, and unwillingness to learn. A healthy D/s dynamic needs respect, trust, and communication…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Relationships, Submissive

How to Vet a Dominant: Key Questions and Red Flags to Look For (Ep. 46)

How to Vet a Dominant: Key Questions and Red Flags to Look For

Vetting a Dominant is crucial for your safety and well-being in BDSM. Discover the key questions to ask, red flags to watch for, and practical tips to ensure…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Safety, Submissive, Vetting

Maintenance Spankings: 5 Things You Need to Know (Ep. 44)

Maintenance Spankings: 5 Things You Need to Know

Maintenance spankings reconnect and prevent bratty behavior, maintaining your D/s dynamic. But how do they differ from punishment spankings, and what’s their real purpose…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Maintenance, Spankings, Submissive

4 Ways to Build Trust in a Dom/sub Relationship (Ep. 42)

4 Ways to Build Trust in a Dom/sub Relationship

We’re delving into the core of trust in D/s relationships, sharing actionable tips on building and maintaining trust to create a deeper bond…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

How to Balance a 24/7 BDSM Dynamic with Vanilla Life (Ep. 40)

How to Balance a 24/7 BDSM Dynamic with Vanilla Life

Balancing a 24/7 BDSM dynamic with everyday responsibilities can be overwhelming. Discover practical tips for harmony between your vanilla life and BDSM desires…

Tagged With: 24/7, BDSM, Beginner, Relationships

Perfectionism in BDSM as a Dom or Sub (Ep. 39)

Perfectionism in BDSM as a Dom or Sub

Feeling overwhelmed by perfectionism in your BDSM journey? We’re sharing tips on embracing imperfection and announcing a free 4-day boot camp to help…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Navigating BDSM with a Disability: Empowering Your Journey (Ep. 38)

We’re exploring how inclusivity enriches the BDSM community, with practical tips on adapting to disabilities and embracing your journey…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Disability, Ideas

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