Beginner

10 Hidden Power Plays Only Experienced Doms Use (Ep. 112)

Unlock the 10 hidden power plays of true dominance—master trust, control, and obedience in your Dom/sub dynamic without ever raising your voice…

Chastity and Locktober: Everything You Need to Know (Ep. 106)

Chastity is more than just denial—discover how Locktober unlocks intimacy, surrender, and fun in modern BDSM relationships as Alesandra explores…

Your First Dungeon Night or Munch? What to Expect (Ep. 104)

Curious about your first dungeon or Munch? Learn what to expect, what to wear, and how to find your kink community with confidence as Alesandra reveals…

Inside Our BDSM Contract – What We Really Agreed To (Ep. 102)

Think BDSM contracts are just kinky rules or 50 Shades fiction? Discover the real essentials for lasting D/s dynamics and how to create your own…

100 Episodes of Kink: What I Learned the Hard Way (Ep. 100)

After 100 episodes, Alesandra reveals the unexpected truths that make or break a BDSM lifestyle—and why learning and growth never stop in kink and…

5 Dom/sub Punishment Ideas I Love (and Hate) (Ep. 98)

Not all Dom sub punishments are created equal! Discover the 5 punishments I love to hate and how they build real connection in your dynamic…

7 Hidden Habits That Keep D/s Relationships Strong (Ep. 95)

Most Dom sub relationships start hot, then fizzle. Discover the 7 hidden habits thriving D/s couples commit to for lasting connection and growth…

Most BDSM Teachers Get This Completely Wrong (Ep. 94)

Most BDSM education is outdated or wrong—and it’s messing up real dynamics! Here are 10 myths hurting kink relationships and how to fix them…

Not Sure You’re a “Real” Dom or Sub? Read This (Ep. 93)

Feel like a fake in BDSM? Even the most confident Doms and subs start with doubts. Discover how to overcome imposter syndrome and claim your place…

How to Explore BDSM WITHOUT a Partner (Ep. 92)

Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again! Discover how to build confidence and skills solo before finding your ideal Dom or sub and…

Is Fifty Shades of Grey Really that Bad? (Ep. 91)

Is 50 Shades of Grey really that bad for the kink community, or did it help spark real conversations about BDSM and consent? Let’s break it down and…

A Guide to Dom/sub for Starters & BDSM for Beginners

Many people who are curious about kink want to know the quickest way to get started and learn BDSM. When you’re just a BDSM beginner, confusion is not uncommon. It can be really frustrating to try to figure out what a Dominant or submissive is all about. If you don’t get started the right way, […]

How to Train Your Sub (Ep. 90)

Training your sub isn’t about punishments—it’s about building trust, habits, and real connection in your dynamic. Discover practical tips and rituals as you…

Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like (Ep. 84)

Not every Dom is harsh or intense—gentle domination leads with care and connection. Discover why soft Doms are on the rise and how to embrace this style…

BDSM & Polyamory: Master Multiple Power Dynamics Without Drama (Ep. 81)

Balancing BDSM and polyamory can feel complex, but clear rules can help. Discover Alesandra’s roadmap to juggling DS dynamics without the chaos…

Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder? (Ep. 79)

Navigating Dom sub dynamics: Who really bears the heavier load? Unveiling the challenges each role faces and the journey to find balance and growth…

How to Be a More Confident Dominant (Ep. 78)

To master dominance, focus on presence, trust, and leadership, not volume. Harness your style to confidently lead and build trust in your dynamic…

50 Game-Changing BDSM Tips in 15 Minutes (Ep. 77)

Unlock the top 50 BDSM tips for connection, exploration, and pleasure. From communication to aftercare, discover how to deepen your experiences…

3 BDSM Mistakes I Made (That Almost Ruined My Journey!) (Ep. 73)

Discover 3 key BDSM mistakes to avoid, like prioritizing rules over connection and ignoring your needs. Learn how to navigate with confidence and…

Why BDSM Turns You On: The Psychology of Kink (Ep. 71)

Uncover the psychology behind BDSM and what truly excites your brain. From endorphins to taboos, dive into the pleasure and emotional release of kink…

Beducated Review – Plus Coupon Code!

As a Dom/sub couple, my partner and I are always looking for ways to explore our sexuality and improve our intimate relationship. One of the resources we’ve found incredibly helpful in this regard is Beducated. Keep reading for my complete Beducated review, and also get your coupon code for a subscription discount. My Honest Beducated […]

Wearing a Collar 24/7 in My D/s Marriage: What It’s Really Like (Ep. 69)

Collars in D/s dynamics aren’t just symbols—they represent ownership, commitment, and trust. Discover the depth and meaning behind wearing a collar 24/7 in our latest episode…

How to Write a BDSM Contract + Free Printable BDSM Contract Template

Have you considered adding a new layer of structure and reliability to your BDSM dynamic? Well, then you’ve come to the right place! It’s always a good idea to have a BDSM contract before you begin any new Dom/sub relationship. It spells out in detail what is expected of each person. It also keeps things safe […]

BDSM in Real Life: A Dom/sub Married Couple Shares Their Journey (Ep. 67)

Harlo and Adira share their journey in balancing BDSM roles with real-life responsibilities, offering tips on communication, mindset, and dealing with challenges…

5 BDSM Experts Reveal the #1 Thing They Wish They Knew (Ep. 65)

Discover what every kink expert wishes they knew before starting BDSM! Insightful, heartfelt advice from top educators to help you embrace your journey and…

BDSM Goals: The Kinkiest Bucket List You’ll Ever See (Ep. 64)

Looking to spice up your BDSM journey? Discover new ways to set thrilling, meaningful goals in your dynamic and build deeper connections. Curious how? Let’s dive in…

Check Off Your Dom Sub Living Kinky Bingo Card

You did a lot of kinky things this year. What did you check off your BDSM bucket list? There’s no way to sugarcoat it. From a messy political election, the spectacle of the Olympics, and whispers of a possible bird flu pandemic, 2024 has been a rollercoaster of a year. But through all the hardships, […]