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AI in BDSM: Can a Robot Really Be Your Sub? (Ep. 80)

AI in BDSM: Can a Robot Really Be Your Sub?

AI is revolutionizing BDSM dynamics with AI-driven Doms and subs. But is tech enhancing kink or replacing real intimacy? Dive into Dom Sub Living to explore…

Tagged With: BDSM, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder? (Ep. 79)

Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder?

Navigating Dom sub dynamics: Who really bears the heavier load? Unveiling the challenges each role faces and the journey to find balance and growth…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Submissive

3 BDSM Mistakes I Made (That Almost Ruined My Journey!) (Ep. 73)

3 BDSM Mistakes I Made (That Almost Ruined My Journey!)

Discover 3 key BDSM mistakes to avoid, like prioritizing rules over connection and ignoring your needs. Learn how to navigate with confidence and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Examples, Relationships, Rules, Submissive

BDSM Submissive Punishments: How to Punish Your Sub Effectively

Tips for submissive punishments

Most Dominant/submissive relationships in BDSM usually have varying types of submissive punishments. Correction (even over text) is needed from time to time when they break the rules. However, many Doms struggle with ideas for knowing how to punish a sub. Here are some tips to keep in mind for a submissive punishment, and we even […]

Tagged With: Discipline, Dominant, Ideas, Long-Distance Relationships, Punishments, Submissive

Our 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship: How We Built It (Ep. 70)

Our 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship: How We Built It

TPE is about trust and freedom, not control. Learn the steps to building a fulfilling 24/7 relationship dynamic and how it can empower both partners…

Tagged With: BDSM, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive, Total Power Exchange, TPE

Lost the Kinky Spark? Revive Your D/s Dynamic Today (Ep. 68)

Lost the Kinky Spark? Revive Your D/s Dynamic Today

Feeling stuck in your D/s relationship? You’re not alone. Life gets in the way, and suddenly the spark is gone. Let’s make your dynamic feel alive again and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

BDSM in Real Life: A Dom/sub Married Couple Shares Their Journey (Ep. 67)

BDSM in Real Life: A Dom/sub Married Couple Shares Their Journey

Harlo and Adira share their journey in balancing BDSM roles with real-life responsibilities, offering tips on communication, mindset, and dealing with challenges…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Married, Relationships, Submissive

How to Negotiate a BDSM Relationship That Truly Works (Ep. 66)

How to Negotiate a BDSM Relationship That Truly Works

In BDSM, negotiation is key to aligning desires and boundaries. Want to master your dynamic? Learn the six essential steps to a successful negotiation and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Dominant, Relationships, Rules, Submissive

Check Off Your Dom Sub Living Kinky Bingo Card

You did a lot of kinky things this year. What did you check off your BDSM bucket list? There’s no way to sugarcoat it. From a messy political election, the spectacle of the Olympics, and whispers of a possible bird flu pandemic, 2024 has been a rollercoaster of a year. But through all the hardships, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Ideas, Kink, Submissive

How to Handle Dom/sub Conflict Without Breaking the Dynamic (Ep. 63)

Conflict in Dom/sub dynamics can undermine relationships if not handled carefully. Learn how to maintain balance and restore roles during disputes…

Tagged With: BDSM, Conflict, Dominant, Relationships, Rules, Submissive

Exploring BDSM Roles: Which One Is Right for You? (Ep. 60)

Exploring BDSM Roles: Which One Is Right for You?

Discover your BDSM identity with Dom Sub Living Podcast! Explore various roles like dominant, submissive, and switch to find what resonates with you…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Submissive

Service-Oriented BDSM: Elevate Your Dom/sub Dynamic (Ep. 59)

Service-Oriented BDSM: Elevate Your Dom/sub Dynamic

Explore how service-oriented BDSM can deepen your dynamic. Discover intentional acts of service that enhance connection and appreciation in your relationship…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Dominant, Ideas, Relationships, Submissive

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM (Ep. 56)

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM

Understanding the difference between punishment and play in BDSM can prevent misunderstandings and build trust. Learn how to navigate these dynamics and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Examples, Ideas, Punishments, Submissive

Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle (Ep. 53)

Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle

Discover the secrets to effective submissive training! Learn how to personalize your dynamic and ensure growth in your BDSM relationship…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Submissive

Vetting a Submissive? Avoid These 5 Red Flags Before You Commit (Ep. 48)

Vetting a Submissive? Avoid These 5 Red Flags Before You Commit

When vetting a sub, look out for inconsistency, boundary issues, and unwillingness to learn. A healthy D/s dynamic needs respect, trust, and communication…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Relationships, Submissive

Topping from the Bottom? Stop Sabotaging Your D/s Dynamic Now! (Ep. 47)

Topping from the Bottom? Stop Sabotaging Your D/s Dynamic Now!

Is your DS dynamic secretly being sabotaged by topping from the bottom? Learn how to regain balance in your relationship and stop it before it wrecks everything…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

How to Vet a Dominant: Key Questions and Red Flags to Look For (Ep. 46)

How to Vet a Dominant: Key Questions and Red Flags to Look For

Vetting a Dominant is crucial for your safety and well-being in BDSM. Discover the key questions to ask, red flags to watch for, and practical tips to ensure…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Safety, Submissive, Vetting

Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge! (Ep. 45)

Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge!

Bratting can add playful energy to your BDSM dynamic, but how do you balance fun and respect? Learn effective ways to turn bratting into a positive force…

Tagged With: BDSM, brat, Definition, Dominant, Ideas, Relationships, Submissive, Tips

Maintenance Spankings: 5 Things You Need to Know (Ep. 44)

Maintenance Spankings: 5 Things You Need to Know

Maintenance spankings reconnect and prevent bratty behavior, maintaining your D/s dynamic. But how do they differ from punishment spankings, and what’s their real purpose…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Maintenance, Spankings, Submissive

The BDSM Olympics: Top 10 Kinky Skills Revealed (Ep. 43)

The BDSM Olympics: Top 10 Kinky Skills Revealed

Master the art of BDSM with our kink Olympic decathlon! Dive into rope bondage, impact play, sensory deprivation, and more to elevate your scenes and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Dominant, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Submissive

4 Ways to Build Trust in a Dom/sub Relationship (Ep. 42)

4 Ways to Build Trust in a Dom/sub Relationship

We’re delving into the core of trust in D/s relationships, sharing actionable tips on building and maintaining trust to create a deeper bond…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Perfectionism in BDSM as a Dom or Sub (Ep. 39)

Perfectionism in BDSM as a Dom or Sub

Feeling overwhelmed by perfectionism in your BDSM journey? We’re sharing tips on embracing imperfection and announcing a free 4-day boot camp to help…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Bisexual Submissive in a BDSM Dynamic: My Story (Ep. 34)

Bisexual Submissive in a BDSM Dynamic: My Story

Navigating life as a bi submissive in a triad can be both exhilarating and challenging. Let’s explore stereotypes, acceptance, and finding balance…

Tagged With: Bisexual, LGBTQ, Polyamory, Submissive

Age Gaps in BDSM Relationships (Ep. 31)

BDSM in your 40s, 50s, and Beyond!

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today, we’re tackling a topic I’ve shied away from due to its inherent controversy and my personal biases: age gap relationships within the BDSM community. Navigating Age Gaps: A Personal and Cultural Perspective Let’s start with a little backstory. My interest in age-gap relationships isn’t just […]

Tagged With: age gap, BDSM, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Exploring the Depths of BDSM with Just Press Foreplay (Ep. 29)

Exploring the Depths of BDSM with Just Press Foreplay

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE I sat down with Suzii from Just Press Foreplay to peel back the layers of a Dominant-submissive (D/s) dynamic. We can’t stress enough the importance of communication and regular check-ins. It’s about understanding each other’s depths—one question, one journal entry at a time. This foundational practice […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive (Ep. 28)

4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE I’m thrilled to share this episode on how to be a better submissive, which is packed with insights to help you blossom in your BDSM journey. So, let’s dive into the art of becoming an even better sub! Improving Your Role as a Submissive: Free Cheat […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Ideas, Submissive

What No One Tells You About Dom/Sub Relationships (Ep. 24)

What No One Tells You About Dom/Sub Relationships

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving deep into the less-discussed topics of BDSM relationships—a world far beyond the staged perfection of a dungeon scene. As someone who has transitioned from a vanilla to a BDSM relationship, I have firsthand experience with the raw complexities this lifestyle entails. So, let’s cut […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Surprising Signs You Might Be a Switch (Ep. 23)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today I am diving into the thrilling world of being a switch in the BDSM community. In this blog post, we’ll explore the surprising signs that suggest you might be a switch, and I’ll share some insightful experiences and perspectives on the fluidity of power, desire, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Submissive, Switch

The Truth about BDSM Tradwives (Ep. 21)

Tradwife BDSM submissive tradwives

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Today, I want to dive deep into the differences and similarities between the BDSM and Tradwife dynamics. As a submissive and long-time advocate for informed and consensual relationship dynamics, I find it essential to understand and respect various lifestyle choices, not just those under the […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Relationships, Submissive

What is a Rope Bunny? Unraveling this Kinky Rope Bondage Role

What is a rope bunny

When someone starts exploring the world of BDSM, they often come across vast terminology. One of the questions I get asked a lot is, What is a rope bunny? In this article we’ll dive into this rewarding role, and I’ll even share my favorite bondage tie and top rope bondage technique tips to help you […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Bondage, Definition, Kink, Submissive

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