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10 Taboo Kinks: Which Are Normal vs. Truly Dangerous? (Ep. 87)

10 Taboo Kinks: Which Are Normal vs. Truly Dangerous?

Your darkest fantasies are more normal than you think! Discover which taboo kinks are safe, which are risky, and how to explore them without shame…

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Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like (Ep. 84)

Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like

Not every Dom is harsh or intense—gentle domination leads with care and connection. Discover why soft Doms are on the rise and how to embrace this style…

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How to Be a More Confident Dominant (Ep. 78)

How to Be a More Confident Dominant

To master dominance, focus on presence, trust, and leadership, not volume. Harness your style to confidently lead and build trust in your dynamic…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant

How to Negotiate a BDSM Relationship That Truly Works (Ep. 66)

How to Negotiate a BDSM Relationship That Truly Works

In BDSM, negotiation is key to aligning desires and boundaries. Want to master your dynamic? Learn the six essential steps to a successful negotiation and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Dominant, Relationships, Rules, Submissive

Exploring BDSM Roles: Which One Is Right for You? (Ep. 60)

Exploring BDSM Roles: Which One Is Right for You?

Discover your BDSM identity with Dom Sub Living Podcast! Explore various roles like dominant, submissive, and switch to find what resonates with you…

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Service-Oriented BDSM: Elevate Your Dom/sub Dynamic (Ep. 59)

Service-Oriented BDSM: Elevate Your Dom/sub Dynamic

Explore how service-oriented BDSM can deepen your dynamic. Discover intentional acts of service that enhance connection and appreciation in your relationship…

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Dom Drop 101: Support Strategies Every Sub Should Know (Ep. 57)

Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle

Explore the complexities of Dom drop and learn how to offer support, reassurance, and aftercare for dominants. Navigate challenges and rebuild your dynamic by…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dom Drop, Dominant, Ideas

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM (Ep. 56)

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM

Understanding the difference between punishment and play in BDSM can prevent misunderstandings and build trust. Learn how to navigate these dynamics and…

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Why Kink and Politics Can’t Be Separated and What It Means for You (Ep. 54)

Why Kink and Politics Can’t Be Separated and What It Means for You

Discover how politics and kink intersect, affecting safe spaces and inclusivity. Explore the impact of legalities, censorship, and advocacy in today’s episode…

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Is BDSM Compatible with Christianity? The Surprising Truth (Ep. 51)

Is BDSM Compatible with Christianity? The Surprising Truth

Reconciling BDSM with Christianity can be tough, but understanding scripture can help! Dive into the Dom Sub Living Podcast to explore faith and desires…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Kink, Relationships, Religion

Vetting a Submissive? Avoid These 5 Red Flags Before You Commit (Ep. 48)

Vetting a Submissive? Avoid These 5 Red Flags Before You Commit

When vetting a sub, look out for inconsistency, boundary issues, and unwillingness to learn. A healthy D/s dynamic needs respect, trust, and communication…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Relationships, Submissive

Topping from the Bottom? Stop Sabotaging Your D/s Dynamic Now! (Ep. 47)

Topping from the Bottom? Stop Sabotaging Your D/s Dynamic Now!

Is your DS dynamic secretly being sabotaged by topping from the bottom? Learn how to regain balance in your relationship and stop it before it wrecks everything…

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Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge! (Ep. 45)

Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge!

Bratting can add playful energy to your BDSM dynamic, but how do you balance fun and respect? Learn effective ways to turn bratting into a positive force…

Tagged With: BDSM, brat, Definition, Dominant, Ideas, Relationships, Submissive, Tips

BDSM Degradation & Humiliation Kink: Ideas & Tips (Ep. 37)

BDSM Degradation & Humiliation Kink: Ideas & Tips

Navigating degradation and humiliation in BDSM can be thrilling yet challenging. Learn to explore safely with tips, ideas, and expert advice in…

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SSC vs. RACK vs. PRICK: Which BDSM Safety Protocol Fits You? (Ep. 33)

SSC vs. RACK vs. PRICK: Which Safety Protocol Fits You?

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that often stirs up quite a bit of conversation within the BDSM community: the dynamics of communication and consent, and the use of different acronyms like SSC, RACK, PRICK, and others. Let’s explore these kink terms, my personal preferences, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Rules, Safety

Foolproof BDSM Advice (Ep. 25)

Foolproof BDSM Advice

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today we’re delving deep into a subject that is both personal and pivotal for anyone who is exploring the realms of BDSM. As someone who has navigated the complexities of power dynamics, I’ve heard my fair share of advice – some good, and some outright dangerous. […]

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What No One Tells You About Dom/Sub Relationships (Ep. 24)

What No One Tells You About Dom/Sub Relationships

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving deep into the less-discussed topics of BDSM relationships—a world far beyond the staged perfection of a dungeon scene. As someone who has transitioned from a vanilla to a BDSM relationship, I have firsthand experience with the raw complexities this lifestyle entails. So, let’s cut […]

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The Truth about BDSM Tradwives (Ep. 21)

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LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Today, I want to dive deep into the differences and similarities between the BDSM and Tradwife dynamics. As a submissive and long-time advocate for informed and consensual relationship dynamics, I find it essential to understand and respect various lifestyle choices, not just those under the […]

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What is a Rope Bunny? Unraveling this Kinky Rope Bondage Role

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When someone starts exploring the world of BDSM, they often come across vast terminology. One of the questions I get asked a lot is, What is a rope bunny? In this article we’ll dive into this rewarding role, and I’ll even share my favorite bondage tie and top rope bondage technique tips to help you […]

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6 Effective Safewords BDSM Couples Need With Examples

Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey, the meaning of “safewords” has become more popular.  But many people, even in the BDSM community, still don’t know how to pick a safe word or use it correctly. BDSM safewords are codes to communicate when a submissive is at their limit or close to it, and I’ll show […]

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Topping from the Bottom: What Does Topping from the Bottom Mean?

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What does “Topping from the Bottom” mean? Ever since the book 50 Shades of Grey made the expression popular, the meaning and actual definition have become cloudy. In BDSM, the definition of “Topping from the Bottom” (or TFTB) is when a submissive starts to become more of the dominant in the relationship.  I’m going to […]

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How to go from Vanilla to BDSM and Kink

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One of the questions I get asked the most is, “How do I go from vanilla to BDSM?” (The definition of vanilla is plain, normal, or boring.) Maybe the person read the book 50 Shades of Grey, or wants to incorporate kink into their relationship or sex life to bring more meaning to it. It […]

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What is a Switch in Bed? The Guide to How to Be a Switch

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What is a “switch” in bed? When most people think of a BDSM relationship, they usually only think of the Dominant and submissive roles (typically a guy and a girl). The truth is, there are many shades of gray on the kink spectrum. Many people (even vanilla ones) enjoy being what’s called a “switch,” and […]

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What is BDSM CNC Kink? Consensual Non-Consent Explained

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One of the most debated but rarely explained topics in the BDSM community is consensual non-consent. The real definition of this type of D/s relationship is one of deep trust, not abuse. And even though the CNC sex fantasy is pretty common, CNC kink/CNC fetish are still a taboo topic. Let’s look more closely, including […]

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10 BDSM Aftercare Tips & Ideas for Dom/sub Couples

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During a BDSM scene or other kink activities, the Dominant and submissive can experience a huge endorphin rush, which can be a shock for both when the scene ends. BDSM aftercare is needed after the scene is over because it’s a way for those in a D/s (Dom/sub) relationship to calm back down. If your […]

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