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BDSM Submissive Punishments: How to Punish a Sub Effectively

Tips for submissive punishments

Most Dominant/submissive relationships in BDSM usually have varying types of submissive punishments. And if rules are broken, the next steps are more than clear. Correction (even over text) is needed from time to time when a sub breaks the rules. However, many Doms struggle with ideas for knowing how to punish a sub. This is […]

Tagged With: Discipline, Dominant, Ideas, Long-Distance Relationships, Punishments, Submissive

BDSM for ADHD and Autism: Build a Dynamic That Fits (Ep. 85)

BDSM for ADHD and Autism Build a Dynamic That Fits

Kink isn’t one-size-fits-all—especially for neurodivergent minds! Here’s how to create a BDSM dynamic that fits your unique brain and needs…

Tagged With: ADHD, Autism, BDSM, Examples, Ideas, Kink, neurodivergence

Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like (Ep. 84)

Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like

Not every Dom is harsh or intense—gentle domination leads with care and connection. Discover why soft Doms are on the rise and how to embrace this style…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Ideas

5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight (Ep. 82)

5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight

Make your BDSM scenes unforgettable—no dungeon or hours of planning required! Try these 5 easy, hot Dom/sub ideas to connect tonight and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Scenes

10 Most Popular Kinks (Are Yours on the List?) (Ep. 75)

10 Most Popular Kinks (Are Yours on the List?)

Exploring kinks can feel daunting, but they’re more common than you think! Uncover the top 10 kinks everyone secretly loves and start your journey…

Tagged With: BDSM, Examples, Ideas, Kink

5 Sensation Play Tips for an Unforgettable Experience (Ep. 74)

5 Sensation Play Tips for an Unforgettable Experience

Enhance your BDSM scenes with sensation play! Learn five game-changing tips to make every touch, tease, and anticipation unforgettable…

Tagged With: BDSM, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Sensation Play

Beducated Review – Plus Coupon Code!

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As a Dom/sub couple, my partner and I are always looking for ways to explore our sexuality and improve our intimate relationship. One of the resources we’ve found incredibly helpful in this regard is Beducated. Keep reading for my complete Beducated review, and also get your coupon code for a subscription discount. My Honest Beducated […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Ideas, Kink, Online, Relationships, Review

How to Write a BDSM Contract + Free Printable BDSM Contract Template

BDSM Contract

Have you considered adding a new layer of structure and reliability to your BDSM dynamic? Well, then you’ve come to the right place! It’s always a good idea to have a BDSM contract before you begin any new Dom/sub relationship. It spells out in detail what is expected of each person. It also keeps things safe […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Ideas, Relationships

5 BDSM Experts Reveal the #1 Thing They Wish They Knew (Ep. 65)

5 BDSM Experts Reveal the #1 Thing They Wish They Knew Before Starting

Discover what every kink expert wishes they knew before starting BDSM! Insightful, heartfelt advice from top educators to help you embrace your journey and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Ideas, Relationships, Rules

BDSM Goals: The Kinkiest Bucket List You’ll Ever See (Ep. 64)

BDSM Goals: The Kinkiest Bucket List You’ll Ever See

Looking to spice up your BDSM journey? Discover new ways to set thrilling, meaningful goals in your dynamic and build deeper connections. Curious how? Let’s dive in…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Ideas

Check Off Your Dom Sub Living Kinky Bingo Card

You did a lot of kinky things this year. What did you check off your BDSM bucket list? There’s no way to sugarcoat it. From a messy political election, the spectacle of the Olympics, and whispers of a possible bird flu pandemic, 2024 has been a rollercoaster of a year. But through all the hardships, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Ideas, Kink, Submissive

Q&A With a 24/7 Submissive – Ask Me Anything! (Ep. 62)

Q&A With a 24/7 Submissive - Ask Me Anything!

Understanding D/s dynamics, maintaining trust, and proactive submission can be challenging yet rewarding! Explore key insights and tips to thrive in your dynamic…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Disability, Ideas, Q&A, Relationships

Impact Play 101: 5 Beginner-Friendly Ideas to Try Now (Ep. 61)

Impact Play 101: 5 Beginner-Friendly Ideas to Try Now

Curious about Impact Play but not sure where to begin? Discover 5 simple, beginner-friendly ideas to make your experience safe, fun, and fulfilling with these tips and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Ideas, Impact Play

Service-Oriented BDSM: Elevate Your Dom/sub Dynamic (Ep. 59)

Service-Oriented BDSM: Elevate Your Dom/sub Dynamic

Explore how service-oriented BDSM can deepen your dynamic. Discover intentional acts of service that enhance connection and appreciation in your relationship…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Dominant, Ideas, Relationships, Submissive

10 Dom/sub Ideas for Public Spaces – No One Will Notice! (Ep. 58)

10 Dom/sub Ideas for Public Spaces – No One Will Notice!

Discover 10 subtle ways to maintain your Dom sub dynamic in public without drawing unwanted attention. Learn how to integrate these practices seamlessly and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Ideas, Kink, Public, Relationships

Dom Drop 101: Support Strategies Every Sub Should Know (Ep. 57)

Submissive Training Secrets: Mastering Your Role in the BDSM Lifestyle

Explore the complexities of Dom drop and learn how to offer support, reassurance, and aftercare for dominants. Navigate challenges and rebuild your dynamic by…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dom Drop, Dominant, Ideas

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM (Ep. 56)

Punishment or Play? How to Know the Difference in BDSM

Understanding the difference between punishment and play in BDSM can prevent misunderstandings and build trust. Learn how to navigate these dynamics and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Examples, Ideas, Punishments, Submissive

How to Build BDSM Protocols to Deepen Your D/s Relationship (Ep. 52)

Discover how simple protocols can enrich your Dom/sub dynamic through structure and connection. Learn why starting small and staying consistent matters…

Tagged With: BDSM, Examples, Ideas, Protocol, Rituals, Rules

BDSM Scene Structure 101: Step-by-Step from Start to Finish (Ep. 50)

BDSM Scene Structure 101: Step-by-Step from Start to Finish

Crafting the perfect BDSM scene involves pleasure, restraint, pain, and constant communication. Key elements include mood setting, improvisation, and aftercare…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Ideas, Scenes

Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge! (Ep. 45)

Understanding Brats in BDSM: Embrace the Fun and Challenge!

Bratting can add playful energy to your BDSM dynamic, but how do you balance fun and respect? Learn effective ways to turn bratting into a positive force…

Tagged With: BDSM, brat, Definition, Dominant, Ideas, Relationships, Submissive, Tips

The BDSM Olympics: Top 10 Kinky Skills Revealed (Ep. 43)

The BDSM Olympics: Top 10 Kinky Skills Revealed

Master the art of BDSM with our kink Olympic decathlon! Dive into rope bondage, impact play, sensory deprivation, and more to elevate your scenes and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Dominant, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Submissive

From BDSM Newbie to Expert: Navigating the Stages of Your D/s Journey (Ep. 41)

From BDSM Newbie to Expert: Navigating the Stages of Your D/s Journey

Curious about BDSM but unsure where to start? Or ready to advance your skills? We’re guiding you through the stages from newbie to expert and…

Tagged With: BDSM, beginners, expert, Ideas, newbie, Relationships

Navigating BDSM with a Disability: Empowering Your Journey (Ep. 38)

We’re exploring how inclusivity enriches the BDSM community, with practical tips on adapting to disabilities and embracing your journey…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Disability, Ideas

What Is Shibari? A Deep Dive into Japanese Rope Bondage

What Is Shibari? A Deep Dive into Japanese Rope Bondage

Unraveling the threads of different kink practices, we stumble upon the art form of Japanese rope bondage, raising the question: What is Shibari BDSM? In this article, we’ll untangle the complexities of Japanese bondage, highlighting the essential aspects of safety, consent, and the intimate connection between the Rigger and the model. Get ready to learn […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Bondage, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Rope

4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive (Ep. 28)

4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE I’m thrilled to share this episode on how to be a better submissive, which is packed with insights to help you blossom in your BDSM journey. So, let’s dive into the art of becoming an even better sub! Improving Your Role as a Submissive: Free Cheat […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Ideas, Submissive

Connecting with the Kink Community (Ep. 26)

Connecting with the Kink Community

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving deep into the heart of community within our diverse scene—discussing everything from munches to dungeons and everything in between. So, let’s unravel some of those discussions here in a way that I hope will empower you to step out and connect with your fellow […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, community, Ideas

Foolproof BDSM Advice (Ep. 25)

Foolproof BDSM Advice

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today we’re delving deep into a subject that is both personal and pivotal for anyone who is exploring the realms of BDSM. As someone who has navigated the complexities of power dynamics, I’ve heard my fair share of advice – some good, and some outright dangerous. […]

Tagged With: Advice, BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Ideas

Types of Bondage: A Journey into the Realm of Restraint

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Embarking on a journey into the realm of BDSM can be thrilling, exhilarating and, for some, a little intimidating. One essential aspect that often piques fascination is all the different types of bondage. We’ll explore the vast variations of bondage types. From Shibari bondage, predicament bondage, to even torture bondage, each method serves a unique […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Bondage, Ideas, Kink

The Ultimate BDSM Checklist for Kinks, Limits & More

(Free Printable Kink Checklist!) When you’re engaging in the kink lifestyle, it’s important to have a BDSM checklist. You probably already have a basic BDSM kink list that you found when you first began your journey. However, it’s essential to have one that is reputable and comprehensible. A good kink checklist will also help you […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Relationships, Submissive

New BDSM Trends and Predictions for 2024 (Ep. 13)

New BDSM Trends and Predictions for 2024

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE We’ve seen a lot of changes and emerging trends in the world of kink, and I’m here to give you a sneak peek into what’s in store for the year ahead. So, grab your favorite paddle, and let’s dive into the state of BDSM and […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Ideas, Kink, Trends

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