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Podcast Episodes

Not Sure You’re a “Real” Dom or Sub? Read This (Ep. 93)

Not Sure You’re a “Real” Dom or Sub? Read This

Feel like a fake in BDSM? Even the most confident Doms and subs start with doubts. Discover how to overcome imposter syndrome and claim your place…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Submissive

How to Explore BDSM WITHOUT a Partner (Ep. 92)

How to Explore BDSM WITHOUT a Partner

Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again! Discover how to build confidence and skills solo before finding your ideal Dom or sub and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Partner, Relationships, Single

Is Fifty Shades of Grey Really that Bad? (Ep. 91)

Is 50 Shades of Grey really that bad for the kink community, or did it help spark real conversations about BDSM and consent? Let’s break it down and…

Tagged With: 50 Shades of Grey, BDSM, Beginner, Examples

How to Train Your Sub (Ep. 90)

How to Train Your Sub

Training your sub isn’t about punishments—it’s about building trust, habits, and real connection in your dynamic. Discover practical tips and rituals as you…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Rules, Submissive, Training

A Look Inside Our Total Power Exchange Relationship (Ep. 89)

A Look Inside Our Total Power Exchange Relationship

Curious what 24/7 total power exchange (TPE) really looks like? Alesandra shares the real-life rituals, challenges, and connection behind the scenes…

Tagged With: 24/7, Relationships, Total Power Exchange, TPE

What People Get Wrong About Total Power Exchange (Ep. 88)

What People Get Wrong About Total Power Exchange

Total power exchange (TPE) can sound extreme, but is it really? Alesandra debunks myths and shares real-life tips for building consensual TPE dynamics…

Tagged With: BDSM, Relationships, Total Power Exchange, TPE

10 Taboo Kinks: Which Are Normal vs. Truly Dangerous? (Ep. 87)

10 Taboo Kinks: Which Are Normal vs. Truly Dangerous?

Your darkest fantasies are more normal than you think! Discover which taboo kinks are safe, which are risky, and how to explore them without shame…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Kink, Taboo

BDSM for ADHD and Autism: Build a Dynamic That Fits (Ep. 85)

BDSM for ADHD and Autism Build a Dynamic That Fits

Kink isn’t one-size-fits-all—especially for neurodivergent minds! Here’s how to create a BDSM dynamic that fits your unique brain and needs…

Tagged With: ADHD, Autism, BDSM, Examples, Ideas, Kink, neurodivergence

Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like (Ep. 84)

Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like

Not every Dom is harsh or intense—gentle domination leads with care and connection. Discover why soft Doms are on the rise and how to embrace this style…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant, Ideas

Why BDSM Works Better Than Therapy (For Some People) (Ep. 83)

Why BDSM Works Better Than Therapy (For Some People)

Therapy isn’t the only path to healing—sometimes BDSM offers what talk therapy can’t. Discover how kink can transform your journey and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Examples, Kink, mental health, Relationships

5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight (Ep. 82)

5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight

Make your BDSM scenes unforgettable—no dungeon or hours of planning required! Try these 5 easy, hot Dom/sub ideas to connect tonight and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Scenes

BDSM & Polyamory: Master Multiple Power Dynamics Without Drama (Ep. 81)

BDSM & Polyamory: Master Multiple Power Dynamics Without Drama

Balancing BDSM and polyamory can feel complex, but clear rules can help. Discover Alesandra’s roadmap to juggling DS dynamics without the chaos…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Polyamory, Relationships

AI in BDSM: Can a Robot Really Be Your Sub? (Ep. 80)

AI in BDSM: Can a Robot Really Be Your Sub?

AI is revolutionizing BDSM dynamics with AI-driven Doms and subs. But is tech enhancing kink or replacing real intimacy? Dive into Dom Sub Living to explore…

Tagged With: BDSM, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder? (Ep. 79)

Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder?

Navigating Dom sub dynamics: Who really bears the heavier load? Unveiling the challenges each role faces and the journey to find balance and growth…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Submissive

How to Be a More Confident Dominant (Ep. 78)

How to Be a More Confident Dominant

To master dominance, focus on presence, trust, and leadership, not volume. Harness your style to confidently lead and build trust in your dynamic…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Definition, Dominant

50 Game-Changing BDSM Tips in 15 Minutes (Ep. 77)

50 Game-Changing BDSM Tips in 15 Minutes

Unlock the top 50 BDSM tips for connection, exploration, and pleasure. From communication to aftercare, discover how to deepen your experiences…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Tips

10 Most Popular Kinks (Are Yours on the List?) (Ep. 75)

10 Most Popular Kinks (Are Yours on the List?)

Exploring kinks can feel daunting, but they’re more common than you think! Uncover the top 10 kinks everyone secretly loves and start your journey…

Tagged With: BDSM, Examples, Ideas, Kink

5 Sensation Play Tips for an Unforgettable Experience (Ep. 74)

5 Sensation Play Tips for an Unforgettable Experience

Enhance your BDSM scenes with sensation play! Learn five game-changing tips to make every touch, tease, and anticipation unforgettable…

Tagged With: BDSM, Examples, Ideas, Kink, Sensation Play

3 BDSM Mistakes I Made (That Almost Ruined My Journey!) (Ep. 73)

3 BDSM Mistakes I Made (That Almost Ruined My Journey!)

Discover 3 key BDSM mistakes to avoid, like prioritizing rules over connection and ignoring your needs. Learn how to navigate with confidence and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Examples, Relationships, Rules, Submissive

Why BDSM Turns You On: The Psychology of Kink (Ep. 71)

Why BDSM Turns You On: The Psychology of Kink

Uncover the psychology behind BDSM and what truly excites your brain. From endorphins to taboos, dive into the pleasure and emotional release of kink…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Kink, Psychology

Our 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship: How We Built It (Ep. 70)

Our 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship: How We Built It

TPE is about trust and freedom, not control. Learn the steps to building a fulfilling 24/7 relationship dynamic and how it can empower both partners…

Tagged With: BDSM, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive, Total Power Exchange, TPE

Wearing a Collar 24/7 in My D/s Marriage: What It’s Really Like (Ep. 69)

Wearing a Collar 24/7 in My D/s Marriage: What It’s Really Like

Collars in D/s dynamics aren’t just symbols—they represent ownership, commitment, and trust. Discover the depth and meaning behind wearing a collar 24/7 in our latest episode…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Collars, Relationships

Lost the Kinky Spark? Revive Your D/s Dynamic Today (Ep. 68)

Lost the Kinky Spark? Revive Your D/s Dynamic Today

Feeling stuck in your D/s relationship? You’re not alone. Life gets in the way, and suddenly the spark is gone. Let’s make your dynamic feel alive again and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Dominant, Relationships, Submissive

BDSM in Real Life: A Dom/sub Married Couple Shares Their Journey (Ep. 67)

BDSM in Real Life: A Dom/sub Married Couple Shares Their Journey

Harlo and Adira share their journey in balancing BDSM roles with real-life responsibilities, offering tips on communication, mindset, and dealing with challenges…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Dominant, Married, Relationships, Submissive

How to Negotiate a BDSM Relationship That Truly Works (Ep. 66)

How to Negotiate a BDSM Relationship That Truly Works

In BDSM, negotiation is key to aligning desires and boundaries. Want to master your dynamic? Learn the six essential steps to a successful negotiation and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Definition, Dominant, Relationships, Rules, Submissive

5 BDSM Experts Reveal the #1 Thing They Wish They Knew (Ep. 65)

5 BDSM Experts Reveal the #1 Thing They Wish They Knew Before Starting

Discover what every kink expert wishes they knew before starting BDSM! Insightful, heartfelt advice from top educators to help you embrace your journey and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Examples, Ideas, Relationships, Rules

BDSM Goals: The Kinkiest Bucket List You’ll Ever See (Ep. 64)

BDSM Goals: The Kinkiest Bucket List You’ll Ever See

Looking to spice up your BDSM journey? Discover new ways to set thrilling, meaningful goals in your dynamic and build deeper connections. Curious how? Let’s dive in…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Ideas

How to Handle Dom/sub Conflict Without Breaking the Dynamic (Ep. 63)

Conflict in Dom/sub dynamics can undermine relationships if not handled carefully. Learn how to maintain balance and restore roles during disputes…

Tagged With: BDSM, Conflict, Dominant, Relationships, Rules, Submissive

Q&A With a 24/7 Submissive – Ask Me Anything! (Ep. 62)

Q&A With a 24/7 Submissive - Ask Me Anything!

Understanding D/s dynamics, maintaining trust, and proactive submission can be challenging yet rewarding! Explore key insights and tips to thrive in your dynamic…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Disability, Ideas, Q&A, Relationships

Impact Play 101: 5 Beginner-Friendly Ideas to Try Now (Ep. 61)

Impact Play 101: 5 Beginner-Friendly Ideas to Try Now

Curious about Impact Play but not sure where to begin? Discover 5 simple, beginner-friendly ideas to make your experience safe, fun, and fulfilling with these tips and…

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Ideas, Impact Play

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