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How to Build BDSM Protocols to Deepen Your D/s Relationship (Ep. 52)
Discover how simple protocols can enrich your Dom/sub dynamic through structure and connection. Learn why starting small and staying consistent matters…
BDSM Scene Structure 101: Step-by-Step from Start to Finish (Ep. 50)
Crafting the perfect BDSM scene involves pleasure, restraint, pain, and constant communication. Key elements include mood setting, improvisation, and aftercare…
The BDSM Olympics: Top 10 Kinky Skills Revealed (Ep. 43)
Master the art of BDSM with our kink Olympic decathlon! Dive into rope bondage, impact play, sensory deprivation, and more to elevate your scenes and…
BDSM Q&A: Fresh Ideas, Avoiding Burnout, Navigating DMs (Ep. 35)
Let’s have a deep dive into the nuanced aspects of maintaining a vibrant and healthy Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship! This recent podcast episode was all about your questions and my responses.
What Is Shibari? A Deep Dive into Japanese Rope Bondage
Unraveling the threads of different kink practices, we stumble upon the art form of Japanese rope bondage, raising the question: What is Shibari BDSM? In this article, we’ll untangle the complexities of Japanese bondage, highlighting the essential aspects of safety, consent, and the intimate connection between the Rigger and the model. Get ready to learn […]
4 Ways to Be a Better Submissive (Ep. 28)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE I’m thrilled to share this episode on how to be a better submissive, which is packed with insights to help you blossom in your BDSM journey. So, let’s dive into the art of becoming an even better sub! Improving Your Role as a Submissive: Free Cheat […]
The Ultimate BDSM Checklist for Kinks, Limits & More
(Free Printable Kink Checklist!) When you’re engaging in the kink lifestyle, it’s important to have a BDSM checklist. You probably already have a basic BDSM kink list that you found when you first began your journey. However, you need to have one that is reputable and comprehensible. A good kink checklist will also help you […]
How to Create Meaningful Traditions for Your D/s Dynamic (Ep. 6)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE As you approach the holiday season, it’s natural to shift your focus toward family gatherings, festive decorations, and gift exchanges. However, it’s important for you not to forget about your BDSM dynamic and the unique bond you share with your partner. So, let’s explore some […]
Mastering Dominance: An In-Depth Look at the Different Types of Doms
In the world of BDSM, Dominants play a pivotal role in guiding and leading their submissive partners. But did you know that there are different types of Doms with distinct approaches and styles? Examples can include Primal Dom, Gentle Dom, Part-Time Master, and Kinky Dom (just to name a few). In this article, we’ll explore […]
Ultimate Guide to Common BDSM Terms
When I first started exploring BDSM, I quickly realized that beyond the dynamics and experiences, there was an entire BDSM language that felt like a secret code. From countless acronyms to nuanced terms, BDSM terminology can be overwhelming, especially for newbies. I remember feeling a bit lost, like I was in a foreign country without […]
6 Effective Safewords BDSM Couples Need With Examples
Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey, the meaning of “safewords” has become more popular. But many people, even in the BDSM community, still don’t know how to pick a safe word or use it correctly. BDSM safewords are codes to communicate when a submissive is at their limit or close to it, and I’ll show […]
Topping from the Bottom: What Does Topping from the Bottom Mean?
What does “Topping from the Bottom” mean? Ever since the book 50 Shades of Grey made the expression popular, the meaning and actual definition have become cloudy. In BDSM, the definition of “Topping from the Bottom” (or TFTB) is when a submissive starts to become more of the dominant in the relationship. I’m going to […]
BDSM Rituals & Why You Need Them
BDSM rituals are an important part of any healthy Dom/sub relationship. They help the Dominant and submissive remember their roles and can be a way to stay centered and focused. But creating powerful and easy Dom/sub rituals (that don’t fizzle out) can be challenging. Read on to discover proven examples of D/s rules and protocols, […]
Your Guide to Consensual Non-Consent
One of the most debated but rarely explained topics in the BDSM community is consensual non-consent, or CNC. The real definition of this type of D/s relationship is one of deep trust, not abuse. And even though the sex fantasy of rape play is pretty common, the CNC kink is still a taboo topic. What […]
Submissive’s Journal: The Ultimate Guide to Submissive Journal Prompts & Ideas
In beginning my BDSM journey as a sub, I thought keeping a submissive’s journal was very vanilla. “Shouldn’t I just tell my Dom my feelings and ideas?” I didn’t think a submissive journal would be useful, but my Dominant wanted me to, so I obeyed. Here’s what I’ve learned, plus some submissive journal prompts and […]