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Age Play Unleashed: DDlg Rules, Rewards and Punishments for Littles

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Daddy Dom/little girl (DDlg) relationships are a subculture of BDSM. They often involve age play, where one partner takes on the role of a “little” and the other that of a caregiver. Within this dynamic, there is usually a set of DDlg rules for littles, chores, and even DDlg punishments and rewards. In this article, […]

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Ultimate Guide to Common BDSM Terms

When I first started exploring BDSM, I quickly realized that beyond the dynamics and experiences, there was an entire BDSM language that felt like a secret code. From countless acronyms to nuanced terms, BDSM terminology can be overwhelming, especially for newbies. I remember feeling a bit lost, like I was in a foreign country without […]

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10 Self-Care Tips Doms and Subs Need

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Many in the BDSM community are responding to the current crisis in one of two ways. They either push themselves to try to keep things under control, or they retreat into worry. In either case, self-care gets neglected, and Dom and sub drop can occur. Yet this is exactly when you need self-care activities the most. […]

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BDSM Rituals & Why You Need Them

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BDSM rituals are an important part of any healthy Dom/sub relationship. They help the Dominant and submissive remember their roles and can be a way to stay centered and focused. But creating powerful and easy Dom/sub rituals (that don’t fizzle out) can be challenging. Read on to discover proven examples of D/s rules and protocols, […]

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7 Rules for BDSM Long-Distance Relationships

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BDSM long-distance relationships are hard, especially for those that are Dom/sub. It can be difficult to keep the dynamic going when you’re apart, and problems and issues arise. There’s also a lot of bad advice and tips on the internet. But even if you’re apart for just a day, or if circumstances make it so […]

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What is BDSM CNC Kink? Consensual Non-Consent Explained

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One of the most debated but rarely explained topics in the BDSM community is consensual non-consent. The real definition of this type of D/s relationship is one of deep trust, not abuse. And even though the CNC sex fantasy is pretty common, CNC kink/CNC fetish are still a taboo topic. Let’s look more closely, including […]

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10 BDSM Aftercare Tips & Ideas for Dom/sub Couples

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During a BDSM scene or other kink activities, the Dominant and submissive can experience a huge endorphin rush, which can be a shock for both when the scene ends. BDSM aftercare is needed after the scene is over because it’s a way for those in a D/s (Dom/sub) relationship to calm back down. If your […]

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8 BDSM Bondage Ideas & Tips for Beginners

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Bondage is one of the fundamental aspects of BDSM. It may seem like just a sex kink, but it’s more than rope ties, tying someone up, or being tied. Real physical and emotional gratification comes from bondage. How can you get started and enjoy it safely, even if you’re a beginner? Here are 8 beginner-friendly […]

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Submissive’s Journal: The Ultimate Guide to Submissive Journal Prompts & Ideas

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In beginning my BDSM journey as a sub, I thought keeping a submissive’s journal was very vanilla.  “Shouldn’t I just tell my Dom my feelings and ideas?” I didn’t think a submissive journal would be useful, but my Dominant wanted me to, so I obeyed.  Here’s what I’ve learned, plus some submissive journal prompts and […]

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