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How to Balance a 24/7 BDSM Dynamic with Vanilla Life (Ep. 40)
Balancing a 24/7 BDSM dynamic with everyday responsibilities can be overwhelming. Discover practical tips for harmony between your vanilla life and BDSM desires…
Escaping the Pressure to Be a Perfect Dom or Sub (Ep. 39)
Feeling overwhelmed by perfectionism in your BDSM journey? We’re sharing tips on embracing imperfection and announcing a free 4-day boot camp to help…
BDSM Degradation & Humiliation Kink: Ideas & Tips (Ep. 37)
Navigating degradation and humiliation in BDSM can be thrilling yet challenging. Learn to explore safely with tips, ideas, and expert advice in…
Kink and Kids: DOs and DON’Ts for D/s Parents (Ep. 36)
Balancing parental duties with BDSM can be challenging. Learn tips on privacy, consent, and maintaining your dynamic while raising kids. Find out more about…
BDSM Q&A: Fresh Ideas, Avoiding Burnout, Navigating DMs (Ep. 35)
Let’s have a deep dive into the nuanced aspects of maintaining a vibrant and healthy Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship! This recent podcast episode was all about your questions and my responses.
BDSM in your 40s, 50s, and Beyond! (Ep. 32)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving into a topic close to my heart—embracing BDSM as a lifestyle in your 40s, 50s, and even later. Many people think of BDSM as a young person’s game, but let me tell you, that’s far from the truth. Age is not only a number […]
Age Gaps in BDSM Relationships (Ep. 31)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today, we’re tackling a topic I’ve shied away from due to its inherent controversy and my personal biases: age gap relationships within the BDSM community. Navigating Age Gaps: A Personal and Cultural Perspective Let’s start with a little backstory. My interest in age-gap relationships isn’t just […]
BDSM’s Role in My Mental Health Journey (Ep. 30)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re delving into the intricate ties between mental health and BDSM as I share a very personal narrative that some may find unexpected—how BDSM has emerged as a beacon of hope in my journey with mental health. The Silent Battle: Living with Mental Illness I’ve always […]
Exploring the Depths of BDSM with Just Press Foreplay (Ep. 29)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE I sat down with Suzii from Just Press Foreplay to peel back the layers of a Dominant-submissive (D/s) dynamic. We can’t stress enough the importance of communication and regular check-ins. It’s about understanding each other’s depths—one question, one journal entry at a time. This foundational practice […]
Why You Need a BDSM Mentor (Ep. 27)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Navigating the world of BDSM can be both exhilarating and daunting, and you’re not alone if you’ve ever felt stuck or overwhelmed. Today, we’re diving deep into why mentorship can be a beacon of light on your kinky path, and how to discern a genuine mentor […]
What No One Tells You About Dom/Sub Relationships (Ep. 24)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE We’re diving deep into the less-discussed topics of BDSM relationships—a world far beyond the staged perfection of a dungeon scene. As someone who has transitioned from a vanilla to a BDSM relationship, I have firsthand experience with the raw complexities this lifestyle entails. So, let’s cut […]
4 Ways to Be a Better Dominant (Ep. 22)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | AUDIBLE Today, I’ll be unraveling the secrets to becoming a great Dominant. Whether you’re just beginning your journey into BDSM or you’re a seasoned practitioner, these insights will revolutionize your approach and deepen the dynamic with your submissive. 1. Cultivating Effective Communication Effective communication lays the foundation […]
The Truth about BDSM Tradwives (Ep. 21)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Today, I want to dive deep into the differences and similarities between the BDSM and Tradwife dynamics. As a submissive and long-time advocate for informed and consensual relationship dynamics, I find it essential to understand and respect various lifestyle choices, not just those under the […]
Helping Your Partner Embrace the BDSM Lifestyle (Ep. 18)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I’m thrilled to dive into a topic that’s essential for the well-being of any BDSM relationship – helping your partner become more interested and comfortable in the lifestyle. Whether you’re a Dominant or a submissive, navigating this journey with your significant other should be about […]
Finding Kinky Love: How to Find a D/s Partner (Ep. 17)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s on many of your minds – finding a legitimate Dom or sub partner. Whether you’re single, navigating the challenges of the BDSM community, or seeking a third partner to enhance your dynamic, I’ve got you covered. Let’s explore […]
The Ultimate BDSM Checklist for Kinks, Limits & More
(Free Printable Kink Checklist!) When you’re engaging in the kink lifestyle, it’s important to have a BDSM checklist. You probably already have a basic BDSM kink list that you found when you first began your journey. However, it’s essential to have one that is reputable and comprehensible. A good kink checklist will also help you […]
5 Ways to Master Long-Distance D/s Relationships (Ep. 14)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode, I share my experience navigating a long-distance D/s dynamic with my Dom while he commutes from Southern California to the San Francisco Bay Area. It hasn’t been without its challenges, but we’ve managed to revamp our dynamic and make things better than […]
3 Reasons Why Your D/s Relationship Keeps Failing (Ep. 9)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE On this episode, we dive into a topic that’s not often discussed openly in the lifestyle – failing D/s relationships. I know the disappointment, frustration, and self-blame many of you experience when a D/s relationship falters. But remember, you are not alone. Accurate Information for […]
Meet my Dom! Advice and Tips for Dominants (Ep. 7)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I am excited to introduce my partner to you: Jay! Jay has been an integral part of my journey as a submissive, and today we will dive deep into our Dom/sub dynamic, and explore the challenges, triumphs, and growth we have experienced together as a […]
How to Create Meaningful Traditions for Your D/s Dynamic (Ep. 6)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE As you approach the holiday season, it’s natural to shift your focus toward family gatherings, festive decorations, and gift exchanges. However, it’s important for you not to forget about your BDSM dynamic and the unique bond you share with your partner. So, let’s explore some […]
3 Big Myths About BDSM That Are Holding You Back (Ep. 5)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode of my podcast, I share a personal story about the myths and limiting beliefs that held me back in the early stages of my own Dom/sub relationship. Today, I want to delve deeper into these myths and discuss how you can break […]
Mastering Dominance: An In-Depth Look at the Different Types of Doms
In the world of BDSM, Dominants play a pivotal role in guiding and leading their submissive partners. But did you know that there are different types of Doms with distinct approaches and styles? Examples can include Primal Dom, Gentle Dom, Part-Time Master, and Kinky Dom (just to name a few). In this article, we’ll explore […]
Age Play Unleashed: DDlg Rules, Rewards and Punishments for Littles
Daddy Dom/little girl (DDlg) relationships are a subculture of BDSM. They often involve age play, where one partner takes on the role of a “little” and the other that of a caregiver. Within this dynamic, there is usually a set of DDlg rules for littles, chores, and even DDlg punishments and rewards. In this article, […]
The Importance of BDSM Education
A BDSM relationship is a consensual dynamic that involves elements of power play and sensory experiences. Taking a “How to learn BDSM class” can be a lot of fun and a great way to explore your sexuality, but it’s important to approach this lifestyle seriously and with safety in mind. In this article, we’ll explore […]
The Only 2 Submissive Collar Types You Need
If you’re a Dominant or submissive in a D/s relationship, you’ve probably wondered about BDSM collar etiquette and meaning. After all, there are so many different submissive collar types for different situations: consideration, sub training, posture, play, everyday wear, pet, protection, ownership, ceremony, and eternity, just to name a few. So what is a day […]
What is a Switch in Bed? The Guide to How to Be a Switch
What is a “switch” in bed? When most people think of a BDSM relationship, they usually only think of the Dominant and submissive roles (typically a guy and a girl). The truth is, there are many shades of gray on the kink spectrum. Many people (even vanilla ones) enjoy being what’s called a “switch,” and […]
7 Rules for BDSM Long-Distance Relationships
BDSM long-distance relationships are hard, especially for those that are Dom/sub. It can be difficult to keep the dynamic going when you’re apart, and problems and issues arise. There’s also a lot of bad advice and tips on the internet. But even if you’re apart for just a day, or if circumstances make it so […]
What is BDSM CNC Kink? Consensual Non-Consent Explained by Embracing Trust and Connection.
One of the most debated but rarely explained topics in the BDSM community is consensual non-consent. The real definition of this type of D/s relationship is one of deep trust, not abuse. And even though the CNC sex fantasy is pretty common, CNC kink/CNC fetish are still a taboo topic. Let’s look more closely, including […]
10 BDSM Aftercare Tips & Ideas for Dom/sub Couples
During a BDSM scene or other kink activities, the Dominant and submissive can experience a huge endorphin rush, which can be a shock for both when the scene ends. BDSM aftercare is needed after the scene is over because it’s a way for those in a D/s (Dom/sub) relationship to calm back down. If your […]