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The Ultimate BDSM Checklist for Kinks, Limits & More

(Free Printable Kink Checklist!) When you’re engaging in the kink lifestyle, it’s important to have a BDSM checklist. You probably already have a basic BDSM kink list that you found when you first began your journey. However, it’s essential to have one that is reputable and comprehensible. A good kink checklist will also help you […]

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Overcoming Dom/sub Mindset Struggles with Leann Herron (Ep. 16)

Overcoming Dom/sub Mindset Struggles with Leann Herron

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode, I take us back to the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit, where I had the pleasure of interviewing the amazing Leann Herron from Finding Resilience with Leann. Leann is not your average guest; she’s a sought-after educator, a certified health and life coach, […]

Tagged With: BDSM, Beginner, Mindset, Rules, Submissive

5 Kinksters Answer: “What I Wish I Knew Before Getting into BDSM” (Ep. 10)

5 Kinksters Answer: “What I Wish I Knew Before Getting into BDSM”

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I am thrilled to bring you a BDSM roundup, where we delve into the diverse perspectives and experiences within the BDSM community. From seasoned Dominants and submissives sharing their pearls of wisdom to those just beginning their journey, the range of insights and stories we […]

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3 Reasons Why Your D/s Relationship Keeps Failing (Ep. 9)

3 Reasons Why Your Ds Relationship Keeps Failing

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE On this episode, we dive into a topic that’s not often discussed openly in the lifestyle – failing D/s relationships. I know the disappointment, frustration, and self-blame many of you experience when a D/s relationship falters. But remember, you are not alone. Accurate Information for […]

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How to Create Meaningful Traditions for Your D/s Dynamic (Ep. 6)

LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE As you approach the holiday season, it’s natural to shift your focus toward family gatherings, festive decorations, and gift exchanges. However, it’s important for you not to forget about your BDSM dynamic and the unique bond you share with your partner. So, let’s explore some […]

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Enter the Ultimate Kinky Giveaway

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A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM & Dom/sub For Starters

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Many people who are curious about kink want to know the quickest way to get started and learn BDSM. When you’re just a BDSM beginner, it can be really frustrating to try and figure out what a Dominant or submissive is all about.  If you don’t get started the right way, you’re going to waste […]

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The Importance of BDSM Education

BDSM education

A BDSM relationship is a consensual dynamic that involves elements of power play and sensory experiences. Taking a “How to learn BDSM class” can be a lot of fun and a great way to explore your sexuality, but it’s important to approach this lifestyle seriously and with safety in mind. In this article, we’ll explore […]

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10 Self-Care Tips Doms and Subs Need

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Many in the BDSM community are responding to the current crisis in one of two ways. They either push themselves to try to keep things under control, or they retreat into worry. In either case, self-care gets neglected, and Dom and sub drop can occur. Yet this is exactly when you need self-care activities the most. […]

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Topping from the Bottom: What Does Topping from the Bottom Mean?

Topping from the Bottom

What does “Topping from the Bottom” mean? Ever since the book 50 Shades of Grey made the expression popular, the meaning and actual definition have become cloudy. In BDSM, the definition of “Topping from the Bottom” (or TFTB) is when a submissive starts to become more of the dominant in the relationship.  I’m going to […]

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Fake Dom vs Real Dom: 9 Warning Signs

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In creating Dom Sub Living I’ve met many great Dominants, but I’ve also come across a lot of fake doms.  I have also heard from many submissives about their scary experiences with bad doms.  I eventually realized that a “Fake dom vs Real Dom” article was necessary. Keep reading to learn the warning signs, red […]

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BDSM Rituals & Why You Need Them

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BDSM rituals are an important part of any healthy Dom/sub relationship. They help the Dominant and submissive remember their roles and can be a way to stay centered and focused. But creating powerful and easy Dom/sub rituals (that don’t fizzle out) can be challenging. Read on to discover proven examples of D/s rules and protocols, […]

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What is a Switch in Bed? The Guide to How to Be a Switch

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What is a “switch” in bed? When most people think of a BDSM relationship, they usually only think of the Dominant and submissive roles (typically a guy and a girl). The truth is, there are many shades of gray on the kink spectrum. Many people (even vanilla ones) enjoy being what’s called a “switch,” and […]

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7 Rules for BDSM Long-Distance Relationships

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BDSM long-distance relationships are hard, especially for those that are Dom/sub. It can be difficult to keep the dynamic going when you’re apart, and problems and issues arise. There’s also a lot of bad advice and tips on the internet. But even if you’re apart for just a day, or if circumstances make it so […]

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How to Master BDSM Maintenance for Doms & subs

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When a Dominant or submissive starts a BDSM relationship, they’re usually very excited and motivated. But after some time passes, the realities of life begin to set in. What can keep a sub eager to serve and also prevent a Dom from neglecting their partner? BDSM maintenance!  When you hear that term, you may think […]

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15 Subs Answer: What’s One Thing You Wish You Knew Before Becoming a Submissive?

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Every Dom/sub dynamic is unique, which is why every submissive learns different lessons and tips that work best for them. So for this special blog post, I’m bringing in 15 of my favorite submissives in the BDSM community to answer the question, What’s one thing you wish you knew before becoming a sub? Now, all […]

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10 BDSM Aftercare Tips & Ideas for Dom/sub Couples

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During a BDSM scene or other kink activities, the Dominant and submissive can experience a huge endorphin rush, which can be a shock for both when the scene ends. BDSM aftercare is needed after the scene is over because it’s a way for those in a D/s (Dom/sub) relationship to calm back down. If your […]

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Submissive’s Journal: The Ultimate Guide to Submissive Journal Prompts & Ideas

Submissive’s Journal

In beginning my BDSM journey as a sub, I thought keeping a submissive’s journal was very vanilla.  “Shouldn’t I just tell my Dom my feelings and ideas?” I didn’t think a submissive journal would be useful, but my Dominant wanted me to, so I obeyed.  Here’s what I’ve learned, plus some submissive journal prompts and […]

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