Most Dominant/submissive relationships in BDSM usually have varying types of submissive punishments. And if rules are broken, the next steps are more than clear. Correction (even over text) is needed from time to time when a sub breaks the rules. However, many Doms struggle with ideas for knowing how to punish a sub. This is […]
Kink Articles + Tips
Whether you’re just kink curious or a hardcore freak, Dom Sub Living has you covered. Here are dozens of articles on various kink topics, including bondage, taboo dynamics, and all things BDSM.
What is Wax Play Kink? 5 Safe Playing Tips
TL;DR: Wax play is a sensual BDSM practice involving warm candle wax dripped on the skin for safe, controlled stimulation. This guide debunks myths, explains safety tips, and offers step-by-step instructions. With the right tools and consent, wax play can deepen intimacy, anticipation, and pleasure between partners exploring power exchange dynamics. BDSM has the power to […]
Exploring Worship Kink: A Deep Dive into Devotion and Submission
In the power exchange of BDSM, devotion plays a large part in the dynamic. You and your partner should be devoted to the roleplay, to start. Then, of course, there’s the honoring and devotion to the BDSM contract you and your partner devise. But things can go even deeper. For some kinksters, the worship kink acts as […]
What Is A Praise Kink & 20 Hot Praise Kink Phrases
BDSM is all about tapping into your most deeply seeded pleasure centers and giving them exactly what they want. But what they want might be different from your partner or other people. In truth, there are dozens and dozens of kinks out there in the universe. One of the fundamental kinks in BDSM play is praise kink. […]
5 Tips for an Ownership Kink in Practice
There’s a certain thrill to giving up your power to someone you trust, isn’t there? Or perhaps you’re more into the empowered side of a power dynamic? Either way, for those with an ownership kink, dominance in the bedroom can lead to immense, unheard-of pleasure. But like anything BDSM-adjacent, there are some ground rules and […]
Dirty Talk During Sex: What to Say and How to Say It
Let’s face it: everyone wants their bedroom just a little bit spicier. Of course, that level of spice (and really, the flavor itself) is never going to look the same between any two given couples. But do you know what is potentially spicier than all else? Communication. Letting your partner know you’re connected, you’re present, and you’re into […]
The Dynamics of BDSM Slave Relationships
For many couples giving themselves over to BDSM play in the bedroom, the dynamics of master and slave roles can be central. It can form the cornerstone of the relationship and inform every decision made together. Of course, different bedrooms conduct different rules when it comes to sexual slavery and BDSM. And what’s right for […]
Beducated Review – Plus Coupon Code!
As a Dom/sub couple, my partner and I are always looking for ways to explore our sexuality and improve our intimate relationship. One of the resources we’ve found incredibly helpful in this regard is Beducated. Keep reading for my complete Beducated review, and also get your coupon code for a subscription discount. My Honest Beducated […]
How to Write a BDSM Contract + Free Printable BDSM Contract Template
Have you considered adding a new layer of structure and reliability to your BDSM dynamic? Well, then you’ve come to the right place! It’s always a good idea to have a BDSM contract before you begin any new Dom/sub relationship. It spells out in detail what is expected of each person. It also keeps things safe […]
Check Off Your Dom Sub Living Kinky Bingo Card
You did a lot of kinky things this year. What did you check off your BDSM bucket list? There’s no way to sugarcoat it. From a messy political election, the spectacle of the Olympics, and whispers of a possible bird flu pandemic, 2024 has been a rollercoaster of a year. But through all the hardships, […]
How to Be a Submissive in BDSM: Ultimate Guide on How to Be a Good Sub
Like anything in the power dynamics of an exploratory sex life, fulfilling a role can truly be transformative. It can set aside preconceptions or other baggage and let you and your partner whisk each other away to a world of untold pleasure. And it can help you tap into deeper needs and desires than you […]
How to Safely Explore Humiliation in BDSM
Let’s imagine you want to shift the power dynamics in your bedroom. Specifically, so the scales are tipped a little bit toward or away from your partner. Let’s even imagine you want to introduce a hefty bit of negativity into that power shift. While those into vanilla sexual experiences might balk at such an idea, […]
An Introduction to High Protocol Kink: Rules and Rituals
Ready to kick your BDSM knowledge into overdrive? These days, BDSM isn’t quite the taboo subject it once was. Everyone, it seems (yes, even your grandmother), likely knows a thing or two about non-vanilla bedroom play. But that doesn’t mean that BDSM is widely understood. Yes, it’s true that zeitgeist moments like “50 Shades of […]
What Is Shibari? A Deep Dive into Japanese Rope Bondage
Unraveling the threads of different kink practices, we stumble upon the art form of Japanese rope bondage, raising the question: What is Shibari BDSM? In this article, we’ll untangle the complexities of Japanese bondage, highlighting the essential aspects of safety, consent, and the intimate connection between the Rigger and the model. Get ready to learn […]
Types of Bondage: A Journey into the Realm of Restraint
Embarking on a journey into the realm of BDSM can be thrilling, exhilarating and, for some, a little intimidating. One essential aspect that often piques fascination is all the different types of bondage. We’ll explore the vast variations of bondage types. From Shibari bondage, predicament bondage, to even torture bondage, each method serves a unique […]
What is a Rope Bunny? Unraveling this Kinky Rope Bondage Role
When someone starts exploring the world of BDSM, they often come across vast terminology. One of the questions I get asked a lot is, What is a rope bunny? In this article we’ll dive into this rewarding role, and I’ll even share my favorite bondage tie and top rope bondage technique tips to help you […]
The Ultimate BDSM Checklist for Kinks, Limits & More
(Free Printable Kink Checklist!) When you’re engaging in the kink lifestyle, it’s important to have a BDSM checklist. You probably already have a basic BDSM kink list that you found when you first began your journey. However, it’s essential to have one that is reputable and comprehensible. A good kink checklist will also help you […]
Mastering Dominance: An In-Depth Look at the Different Types of Doms
In the world of BDSM, Dominants play a pivotal role in guiding and leading their submissive partners. But did you know that there are different types of Doms with distinct approaches and styles? Examples can include Primal Dom, Gentle Dom, Part-Time Master, and Kinky Dom (just to name a few). In this article, we’ll explore […]
Age Play Unleashed: DDlg Rules, Rewards and Punishments for Littles
Daddy Dom/little girl (DDlg) relationships are a subculture of BDSM. They often involve age play, where one partner takes on the role of a “little” and the other that of a caregiver. Within this dynamic, there is usually a set of DDlg rules for littles, chores, and even DDlg punishments and rewards. In this article, […]
Ultimate Guide to Common BDSM Terms
When I first started exploring BDSM, I quickly realized that beyond the dynamics and experiences, there was an entire BDSM language that felt like a secret code. From countless acronyms to nuanced terms, BDSM terminology can be overwhelming, especially for newbies. I remember feeling a bit lost, like I was in a foreign country without […]
A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM & Dom/sub For Starters
Many people who are curious about kink want to know the quickest way to get started and learn BDSM. When you’re just a BDSM beginner, it can be really frustrating to try and figure out what a Dominant or submissive is all about. If you don’t get started the right way, you’re going to waste […]
The Importance of BDSM Education
A BDSM relationship is a consensual dynamic that involves elements of power play and sensory experiences. Taking a “How to learn BDSM class” can be a lot of fun and a great way to explore your sexuality, but it’s important to approach this lifestyle seriously and with safety in mind. In this article, we’ll explore […]
Introducing BDSM Training: Dom Sub Training Courses
If you subscribe to Dom Sub Living elsewhere, then you may have already heard about my new BDSM course, “Dom Sub Training”. Either way, I wanted to formally introduce it to everyone here on the blog. I’m really excited about this! Creating the BDSM Course Back when I was trying to decide what kind of course […]
8 Best BDSM Clubs in the San Francisco Bay Area
San Francisco, by many accounts, is the BDSM capital of America, if not the world. Having been born and raised in the Bay Area and living there almost my whole life, I’ve been exposed to kink for a very long time. In this article, I’m sharing all of the best kinky clubs, events, groups, and […]
6 Effective Safewords BDSM Couples Need With Examples
Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey, the meaning of “safewords” has become more popular. But many people, even in the BDSM community, still don’t know how to pick a safe word or use it correctly. BDSM safewords are codes to communicate when a submissive is at their limit or close to it, and I’ll show […]
Topping from the Bottom: What Does Topping from the Bottom Mean?
What does “Topping from the Bottom” mean? Ever since the book 50 Shades of Grey made the expression popular, the meaning and actual definition have become cloudy. In BDSM, the definition of “Topping from the Bottom” (or TFTB) is when a submissive starts to become more of the dominant in the relationship. I’m going to […]
What is DDlg? Daddy Dom/little girl Ultimate Guide
What is DDlg? Keep reading to learn all about the rules, definition of “little space”, Daddy dominant traits, and get new ideas, so you can enjoy ageplay responsibly.
Fake Dom vs Real Dom: 9 Warning Signs
In creating Dom Sub Living I’ve met many great Dominants, but I’ve also come across a lot of fake doms. I have also heard from many submissives about their scary experiences with bad doms. I eventually realized that a “Fake dom vs Real Dom” article was necessary. Keep reading to learn the warning signs, red […]
BDSM Rituals & Why You Need Them
BDSM rituals are an important part of any healthy Dom/sub relationship. They help the Dominant and submissive remember their roles and can be a way to stay centered and focused. But creating powerful and easy Dom/sub rituals (that don’t fizzle out) can be challenging. Read on to discover proven examples of D/s rules and protocols, […]
The Ultimate 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship Guide
Are you a Dominant or submissive, eager to make the BDSM lifestyle a 24/7 agreement? Maybe you already have a contract, but you now want a full-time dynamic. Total Power Exchange relationships, or TPE relationships, are sometimes seen as the ultimate goal in a BDSM lifestyle. While they can enhance your role as Dom or […]
