LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s on many of your minds – finding a legitimate Dom or sub partner. Whether you’re single, navigating the challenges of the BDSM community, or seeking a third partner to enhance your dynamic, I’ve got you covered. Let’s explore […]
What is a Rope Bunny? Unraveling this Kinky Rope Bondage Role
When someone starts exploring the world of BDSM, they often come across vast terminology. One of the questions I get asked a lot is, What is a rope bunny? In this article we’ll dive into this rewarding role, and I’ll even share my favorite bondage tie and top rope bondage technique tips to help you […]
The Ultimate BDSM Checklist for Kinks, Limits & More
(Free Printable Kink Checklist!) When you’re engaging in the kink lifestyle, it’s important to have a BDSM checklist. You probably already have a basic BDSM kink list that you found when you first began your journey. However, it’s essential to have one that is reputable and comprehensible. A good kink checklist will also help you […]
Overcoming Dom/sub Mindset Struggles with Leann Herron (Ep. 16)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode, I take us back to the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit, where I had the pleasure of interviewing the amazing Leann Herron from Finding Resilience with Leann. Leann is not your average guest; she’s a sought-after educator, a certified health and life coach, […]
Our BIGGEST Announcement Yet (Ep. 15)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Hey there, kinky friends! I am ecstatic to share some groundbreaking news with you—something that our team at Dom Sub Living has been tirelessly working on behind the scenes. This is a game-changer, a revolutionary opportunity that will redefine the way BDSM education happens. Are […]
5 Ways to Master Long-Distance D/s Relationships (Ep. 14)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode, I share my experience navigating a long-distance D/s dynamic with my Dom while he commutes from Southern California to the San Francisco Bay Area. It hasn’t been without its challenges, but we’ve managed to revamp our dynamic and make things better than […]
New BDSM Trends and Predictions for 2024 (Ep. 13)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE We’ve seen a lot of changes and emerging trends in the world of kink, and I’m here to give you a sneak peek into what’s in store for the year ahead. So, grab your favorite paddle, and let’s dive into the state of BDSM and […]
The Good, Bad, and Ugly of my 2023 (Ep. 12)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE As I sit down to reflect on the past year’s journeys and challenges, I am filled with a mix of emotions – gratitude for overcoming difficulties, awe at the transformative power of vulnerability, and a deep sense of resilience that has propelled me forward despite […]
What’s Coming in 2024 for the Podcast and Dom Sub Living (Ep. 11)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I can’t wait to share with you some exciting updates and plans for the upcoming year! 2023 has been quite a journey. As we step into 2024, I wanted to take a moment to give you a sneak peek into what’s coming up at Dom […]
5 Kinksters Answer: “What I Wish I Knew Before Getting into BDSM” (Ep. 10)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I am thrilled to bring you a BDSM roundup, where we delve into the diverse perspectives and experiences within the BDSM community. From seasoned Dominants and submissives sharing their pearls of wisdom to those just beginning their journey, the range of insights and stories we […]
3 Reasons Why Your D/s Relationship Keeps Failing (Ep. 9)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE On this episode, we dive into a topic that’s not often discussed openly in the lifestyle – failing D/s relationships. I know the disappointment, frustration, and self-blame many of you experience when a D/s relationship falters. But remember, you are not alone. Accurate Information for […]
How We Built a 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship, Step-by-Step (Ep. 8)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In today’s episode, we are going to dive deep into the steps we took to establish our 24/7 Total Power Exchange (TPE) relationship. It’s been quite the journey, and I’m thrilled to share it with you! Step 1: Research and Education When my partner, Jay, […]
Meet my Dom! Advice and Tips for Dominants (Ep. 7)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE I am excited to introduce my partner to you: Jay! Jay has been an integral part of my journey as a submissive, and today we will dive deep into our Dom/sub dynamic, and explore the challenges, triumphs, and growth we have experienced together as a […]
How to Create Meaningful Traditions for Your D/s Dynamic (Ep. 6)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE As you approach the holiday season, it’s natural to shift your focus toward family gatherings, festive decorations, and gift exchanges. However, it’s important for you not to forget about your BDSM dynamic and the unique bond you share with your partner. So, let’s explore some […]
3 Big Myths About BDSM That Are Holding You Back (Ep. 5)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this episode of my podcast, I share a personal story about the myths and limiting beliefs that held me back in the early stages of my own Dom/sub relationship. Today, I want to delve deeper into these myths and discuss how you can break […]
Why Now is the Best Time to Start Your BDSM Journey (Ep. 4)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Let’s explore why there has never been a better time to start living the BDSM lifestyle. We’ll discuss the reasons why now is the opportune moment to embrace your true potential as a Dominant or submissive. So let’s dive into the fascinating world of kink […]
Why I Quit My Vanilla Relationship to Become a Full-Time Submissive (Ep. 3)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE In this exciting episode, I wanted to share my personal story and reveal the driving force behind my decision to become a full-time submissive. As a BDSM instructor and D/s relationship coach, I am often asked what led me down this path. Today, I’m here […]
5 Reasons Why You Need BDSM in Your Life (Ep. 2)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Welcome, fellow kinksters and curious minds, to another exhilarating episode of Dom Sub Living! Today I want to dive deep into the world of BDSM. Whether you’re a seasoned practitioner or just starting to explore this exciting realm, I’m here to share five compelling reasons […]
My Unfiltered Story About Why I Started This Podcast (Ep. 1)
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE: APPLE PODCASTS | SPOTIFY | GOOGLE Hey there, fellow kinksters! It’s Alesandra here, your kinky guide, and I’m thrilled to welcome you to the world of Dom Sub Living. In this blog post, I want to delve deeper into our very first podcast episode and give you an exclusive glimpse into […]
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Mastering Dominance: An In-Depth Look at the Different Types of Doms
In the world of BDSM, Dominants play a pivotal role in guiding and leading their submissive partners. But did you know that there are different types of Doms with distinct approaches and styles? Examples can include Primal Dom, Gentle Dom, Part-Time Master, and Kinky Dom (just to name a few). In this article, we’ll explore […]
Age Play Unleashed: DDlg Rules, Rewards and Punishments for Littles
Daddy Dom/little girl (DDlg) relationships are a subculture of BDSM. They often involve age play, where one partner takes on the role of a “little” and the other that of a caregiver. Within this dynamic, there is usually a set of DDlg rules for littles, chores, and even DDlg punishments and rewards. In this article, […]
Ultimate Guide to Common BDSM Terms
When I first started exploring BDSM, I quickly realized that beyond the dynamics and experiences, there was an entire BDSM language that felt like a secret code. From countless acronyms to nuanced terms, BDSM terminology can be overwhelming, especially for newbies. I remember feeling a bit lost, like I was in a foreign country without […]
The Importance of BDSM Education
A BDSM relationship is a consensual dynamic that involves elements of power play and sensory experiences. Taking a “How to learn BDSM class” can be a lot of fun and a great way to explore your sexuality, but it’s important to approach this lifestyle seriously and with safety in mind. In this article, we’ll explore […]
Introducing BDSM Training: Dom Sub Training Courses
If you subscribe to Dom Sub Living elsewhere, then you may have already heard about my new BDSM course, “Dom Sub Training”. Either way, I wanted to formally introduce it to everyone here on the blog. I’m really excited about this! Creating the BDSM Course Back when I was trying to decide what kind of course […]
8 Best BDSM Clubs in the San Francisco Bay Area
San Francisco, by many accounts, is the BDSM capital of America, if not the world. Having been born and raised in the Bay Area and living there almost my whole life, I’ve been exposed to kink for a very long time. In this article, I’m sharing all of the best kinky clubs, events, groups, and […]
6 Effective Safewords BDSM Couples Need With Examples
Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey, the meaning of “safewords” has become more popular. But many people, even in the BDSM community, still don’t know how to pick a safe word or use it correctly. BDSM safewords are codes to communicate when a submissive is at their limit or close to it, and I’ll show […]
10 Self-Care Tips Doms and Subs Need
Many in the BDSM community are responding to the current crisis in one of two ways. They either push themselves to try to keep things under control, or they retreat into worry. In either case, self-care gets neglected, and Dom and sub drop can occur. Yet this is exactly when you need self-care activities the most. […]
Topping from the Bottom: What Does Topping from the Bottom Mean?
What does “Topping from the Bottom” mean? Ever since the book 50 Shades of Grey made the expression popular, the meaning and actual definition have become cloudy. In BDSM, the definition of “Topping from the Bottom” (or TFTB) is when a submissive starts to become more of the dominant in the relationship. I’m going to […]
What is DDlg? Daddy Dom/little girl Ultimate Guide
What is DDlg? Keep reading to learn all about the rules, definition of “little space”, Daddy dominant traits, and get new ideas, so you can enjoy ageplay responsibly.